Richard, I'm very sorry you might not be getting the support you hoped for.
First, I would really think hard about going off coumadin or experimenting with alternative ways to prevent clots, because not only would my worry be "would I rather die from bleeding or clotting?", but for ME personally I would fear a major stroke that didn't kill me but left me unable to do much for myself at all. Especially since you are having problems with GI bleeds, which for the most part, wouldn't do the kind of damage like if you were having brain bleeds. Also as long as you have a bleeding problem, pretty much any thing you use as an anticoagulant would still increase the amount you bleed. IF they can't find any reason for your Bleed and you want to get off Coumadin, I would really consider getting a tissue valve, yes the surgery would be a risk, but it is a 1 time risk, which unless they can find what is causing your bleeds, it will most likely continue to happen.
I know a percentage of people who have GI bleeds can't find where the bleed is coming from, even WITH upper and lower GIs ect. (AKA Obscure GI bleed) I can only imagine how frustrating it must be to have ongoing GI bleed problems that they haven't been able to find where the problem is. I think about 5% of the patients with reoccuring GI Bleeds they can't find the cause for, so to think about also needing to take an anticoagulent must give you even more to worry about, even with your INR that is pretty stable according to your first post.
I know you mentioned you've had scans and scopes ect, and I don't know if you already have seen these, or if they would help, and I don't know what hospitals /doctors you have been going to but I know a few centers like Mayo and Mass general in Boston are doing work trying to find the cause for patients with Obscure GI Bleeds. Mass Gen currently has a clinical trial going on
http://clinicaltrials.gov/ct2/show/NCT00593021
Purpose
"Up to 5% of patients with recurrent gastrointestinal (GI) bleeding remain undiagnosed by EGD and colonoscopy, the presumed source of bleeding in these patients being the small intestine. These patients fall under the category of "obscure gastrointestinal bleeding," and frequently require an extensive diagnostic work-up. For these reasons, most patients who present with obscure or occult gastrointestinal bleeding typically undergo multiple endoscopic evaluations, including capsule endoscopy and various radiologic imaging studies, including enteroclysis, small bowel series, CT scan, angiography, and radionuclide scan. Recently, many centers (included the Brigham and Women's Hospital) have begun using capsule endoscopy and CT enterography (CTE) for evaluation of suspected small bowel pathology. This is an observational study enrolling patients referred to the Brigham and Women's Hospital for obscure gastrointestinal bleeding designed to compare the diagnostic yield of various diagnostic modalities, in particular capsule endoscopy and CT enterography in the evaluation of obscure gastrointestinal bleeding."
IF you do a search for obscure gastrointestinal bleeding at the clinical trials site, you can find a couple trials.
The Mayo has alot of info, tests ect
http://www.mayoclinic.org/gastrointestinal-bleeding/diagnosis.html I know you live in Cal, but if you don't want to or can't travel, maybe you could try calling and see if they could suggest some good centers/docs in your area doing the same work.
As for the thousands of people who've had excessive blood loss because of Coumadin, Considerring MILLIONS of people take coumadin each year, even IF only 1% have major bleeds (which is the lowest % I see) every year, that would easily be thousands. Of course I am NOT saying coumadin caused the bleed to start, but IF you have a problem that causes bleeds of course taking a drug that slows clotting would increase the amount of blood lost in many of the patients. I can understand it is hard to imagine probably 10s of millions of people take coumadin, so even 1% is alot of people. I was surprised at how many prescriptions were written for coumadin a year I knew it was "alot" but not that much.
Here is the study the explaining why the FDA used to decide to put the Black box warning for excessive or fatal bleeding on Coumadin
http://classic.muhealth.org/outcomes/development/Bleeding Complications with Warfarin Use.pdf
entitled "Bleeding Complications With Warfarin Use A Prevalent Adverse Effect Resulting in Regulatory Action"