Prayers Needed

[Christina L]

Oh my Ross -

Oh my Ross -

I am so sad to hear this tragic news. Your son and ALL will be in my thoughts and prayers.

God be with you -

Christina L

 

[Granbonny]

Ross/Lyn

Ross/Lyn

Prayers coming your way from us..Bonnie/John

 

[Barbara Stewart]

Ross,

I'd like to give you and Lyn a big hug. They say God never gives us more than we can handle, but why do we have to be so strong?
Don't give up. Ross, my grandson, who was still in the womb, kept me alive when my infection became septic. You and Lyn need to stay around to see to see your grandchildren.

You are in my thoughts. I'm thinking HUGS.

Barbara

 

[Rain]

Know how much I care about you Ross.

Know how much I care about you Ross.

Ross,

I truely cannot imagine your pain. It brought me to tears reading about your son and family.

Please know that I am sending you lots of warm hugs. You have all my love and support.

 

[Dennis S]

Praying for you.

Praying for you.

Dear Ross, I just now read your post about this horrible accident. I sit in front of my screen, shocked into silence. I am praying for you & your family.

 

[pipersmith]

{{{{{{Ross and family}}}}}}

{{{{{{Ross and family}}}}}}

May I echo what everyone has said and offer my sincere sympathy for all in each family. I will offer my prayers - with those of all in this family!

 

[Creed3]

Oh Ross,

Oh Ross,

I am so very sorry to hear this terrible news. I just couldn't believe what I was reading. You all have been put through the ringer the last few years. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your entire family. God Bless you all during this difficult time.

Gail

 

[Ross]

Good morning. It is isn't it???

Chris came off the vent yesterday. We are no longer so sure that there isn't a head injury. He has no short term memory period. He asks what happened, says I have to pee, Ouch it hurts, cries bit, asks where Savannah is, then the cycle repeats. I'm not even sure he realized we were there. A couple of his friends came up and he did not recognize them and didn't seem to recognize his brothers either. Catscan still isn't showing any brain damage, just some soft tissue damage with no bleeding apparent. His left ankle is broken also. That's both ankles folks. I'm hoping and praying this is only temporary or we've got a lot more on our hands then we originally were led to believe.

Savannah pulled her own vent tube yesterday. (Lets see the hospital charge for weening!!) Her brother got in there as fast as possible and she now knows that her mother was killed in the accident. It hasn't sunk in for her yet. We stopped in and saw her when leaving last night. She is very much with the program and knows what all has occured with her and her surgery. She even joked that she didn't the extra kidney or spleen anyway, it's just more weight. She has a long road ahead also, but the difference between her and Chris right now is amazing. You can't compare them other then they were in the same accident.

Rumor has it and this is yet uncomfirmed that the driver of the offending vehicle passed away and the passenger is not expected to survive either. I'm trying to verify this, but so far, nothing is varifiable.

For once in my life, I wish I had family around. We are going to need help with visiting Chris as we cannot be there all the time. Lyn cannot stay out of work indefinately and I have to keep on top of my issues or I'll be in there with him. I truly feel like a little kid left in the big mean world wondering what to do. What do I do? I just cannot think straight anymore.

 

[geebee]

Hi Hon,

It is very common to have short term memory loss after such an accident. Every person is different and even some slight brain swelling can have a huge impact. I won't tell you not to worry as that would be dumb but just know this is not unusual.

2 damaged ankles will be very tough as you know. I feel so badly for Chris (and the rest of your family). He has a long road ahead but sounds like the support system is strong. You know that is the most important thing right now.

Please know that much love is coming your way and we all are praying. Please let us know what else we can do.

 

[Lotti]

Memory

Memory

Ross, I hope that this memory issue is a temporary thing. It is possible. I had a similar thing happen to me 7 years ago after a trauma. My family were terrified. I did not know them or the hospital staff who had been with me. They would leave the room, come back in and I would not recognise them. I too did the same conversations repeatedly, not knowing that I had "just done that". I recovered but still have no memory of the actual time while I was like this. I hope that this too will be the case for Chris.
My continuing prayers...........

Lotti

 

[Phyllis]

Dear Ross,
Had to check in this morning before leaving. I pray that as the others said that the memory loss is a temporary thing and that both Chris and Savannah have complete recoveries. It sounds like they will have a strong support system with friends and siblings and you and Lyn will have to accept their help. Our prayers are with you all and I will be anxious to read nothing but good news on our return. God Bless!

 

[marky]

Ross..
thank you for the update.
continuing to pray for Chris and Savannah.. I echo what has been said about trauma.. I worked with many head injured patients..and often times the amnesia remains about the accident (sometimes that is ok IYKWIM)..and as the soft tissue heals the thoughts will become more conscious and make much more sense.

He also just came off the vent and I am sure that they have him on some serious meds.

I am sure that you have already discussed this, butmake sure that he has a patient advocate, and will have in home help when he leaves. (ie, therapy,visiting nurses etc.)
Maybe they will transfer him to a rehab facility since he has 2 broken legs?

You are all still very much in my prayers!

 

[Kate]

Dear Ross,
I'm so sorry to hear about your son and his family. Hopefully, the memory loss is only temporary and he'll be as aware as your future daughter-in-law soon. I'm also sorry that you're feeling overwhelmed (who wouldn't be at this point?) and hope there are folks in your community you can turn to for the kind of practical support virtual friends are unable to provide. I know it's hard to ask, but people usually want to help if you give them the chance. Take care and I'll hold you all in my thoughts. Kate

 

[Ross]

Marky I just don't know. He's going to need further surgeries on his right ankle just make it usable and be able to support weight. As it stands, it's an unusable piece of body hanging there. How many specialists or facilities are going to talk to a 22 year old with no health insurance? We got major problems to work through.

 

[Mary]

Ross,
The expenses should be covered by the other driver's insurance.
Having had two broken ankles myself, having them opereated on and pinned is much better long term than the conventional put-them-in-a-cast-for eight weeks.
Everything will work out; the important thing is Chris is alive.
Keep your chin up.

 

[Andrew'sMom]

the road ahead looks to be difficult, but HE IS ALIVE ... and that is awesome, considering this accident may have taken 3 lives now. please know that you have so mant people praying for you and pulling for yo and your family. glad to read savannah is doing well.

 

[Ross]

Ross,
The expenses should be covered by the other driver's insurance.
Having had two broken ankles myself, having them opereated on and pinned is much better long term than the conventional put-them-in-a-cast-for eight weeks.
Everything will work out; the important thing is Chris is alive.
Keep your chin up.

Hon, what insurance? The guy didn't even have a drivers license! Like I said, we got problems. Yes, Chris being alive is the only good point in all of this so far. I wish we could just pin that ankle together and things would be fine, but he's missing a huge chunk of bone right where the foot bends and part of the heel is gone. He's looking at some heavy duty bone grafting and reconstruction. Ortho is looking into specialists. I just don't know where were going from here.
I'm going to see if we cant get him on Medicaid. He hasn't had much for income. 26 weeks of unemployment and just started a telemarketing job, so that is minimal income.

 

[Wise]

Ross, I certainly can't add to what has been said. I feel speechless anyway, am I'm so removed from this situation. I know that we CANNOT begin to know how you're feeling now. If we were closer we'd help out, but that's an impossibility. So, if there's anything else we can do, please tell us. I know that seems like the thing to say, but I've learned through different difficulties that when said by someone it is usually meant. It is now.

We will continue to pray for your son and his fiance, their families and you.

Wise

 

[Karlynn]

Ross, don't try to eat the whole cow at once. Anticipate and look ahead a bit so you can pace yourself. But knowing you have to eat the whole cow can be overwhelming when you continue to look at the whole cow rather than the part you are on. Consentrate on the tasks at hand. Solve one or two issues at a time.

And know that we are praying hard.

Chris is alive and that's the important thing. And I know you already know that. Please take good care of yourself.

 

[StretchL]

Hon, what insurance? The guy didn't even have a drivers license!

Ross, perhaps a call to a very good, reputable attorney would be in order soon. He or she could help you sort out the issues of the driver's and/or other parties' liability. Just a thought...