oo0My_Valve0oo
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That was my scenario. I did not need anyone. I took care of myself. Fortunately I had a sternum brace so I had arm mobility. I planned on taking the bus for lab work. But it required more than one route. Walking between the connecting stops made it impractical and I doubted I had the strength to make that trek during the first few weeks so I was driving within a week. I could have used Uber or a care service but I was in good enough shape to drive. The danger is to you not others. You cannot withstand the impact of the airbag. It will break open your sternum. Cardiologist said if it is interrupted during the healing process it never heals and you have movement forever. I took that risk.What if we are alone, live alone, single, no family or friends to take care of us ?
The hospital needed a contact. Immediately after the surgery they want to tell someone about how you are doing. It relieves them of certain obligations and responsibilities knowing you have someone to take care of you. You can pay someone to be that if you do not know anyone willing to do it. There are care services and also individual caretakers, I had a friend vouch that they would be coming by checking on me regularly. Of course that is as far as it ever went. They did not come by. I took care of myself and I wanted it that way.
My advice is keep as much as possible to yourself. I made a mistake touching base with an old friend after I was released and home. I did not want to lie to this friend and upon hearing that I was taking care of myself and driving they proceeded to stir up trouble contacting mutual friends. It is my personal business and not theirs to divulge to anyone regardless of how they feel about it but this person is not that aware and was more interested in her feelings about everything than mine. Indirectly another friend heard I was driving and proceeded to pass judgement because they believed I was a danger to others. I was probably more careful driving than 90% of other drivers. I could not clarify how the danger was to me rather than others because it would have added drama to the almost gossip fashion in which this information had been spread. That third party never said anything to me so I did not get an opportunity to clarify anything.
Someone had almost psychic perception of me and set the reactive old friend straight on how I am fiercely independent and it was my desire to take care of myself. When this friend I had touched base with spouted off all these traits basically explaining my motivations I knew that could not have been her own perception of me. Someone described me to her. It was either that third party or she had asked a psychic about me. Seriously. She is not that aware. It was definitely not her own knowledge of me. It was in the realm of strong possibility that she would contact a psychic. The other strong possibility is that the third party described me in order to convince this old friend to back off. That person is that aware and perceptive.