Hey there
just wanted to add a word about something since you say:
I observe that people fixate on the surgery its like this big screen that looms up and they can't see past "the surgery" ... but there is the rest of your life after the surgery, and indeed you'll see this written (again, and again, and again) here that soon you'll find a year has gone by. So my advice is to start thinking now about the years after surgery. Think about things like what you'll be doing (medically and health wise) and what changes you may need to begin making. What you'll need to learn and how to adjust. Its all minor stuff, but somehow I've noticed that as people age they get more fazed by any changes.
Best Wishes