This is a life changing event. It is a serious event. Why people think they should do this again and again, when they haven't had their first surgery, is beyond me.
In defense, I have to say this. I've had surgery before, though never OHS, without having had it before, it's impossible to know what it's like. I know when I was considering a tissue valve, I thought heart surgery would be pretty much like any other surgery with a longer time to recuperate. Well, it was nothing like that for me. So when you don't know, you just don't know.