sue943
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Having been a member here for a while and reading stories of young children desperately ill, of people here desperate to live I can't help thinking that somethings are just not fair.
My ex-mother-in-law had rheumatic fever as a child and as a result she had a heart murmer. She was taken out of main school and home-schooled as she was so delicate, something fairly unusual in the UK. He robust sister who was great at sport and generally the 'healthy one' died when she was in her late sixties but my frail m-i-l lived on, and on, and on...
Yesterday she died, she was 102 last October! She spent the last twenty years of her life saying she wanted to die and get it over with, her husband was dead and things were happening that she didn't like - I won't go into details but it was to do with her son's choice of a second wife.
So far my ex hasn't bothered to contact me or our children to let us know, it was a family friend who told me.
One cannot be upset about her death, she was old and in poor health, blind and had dementia, so no quality of life. I just feel sorry for my children who have lost a grandmother and who have a father who hasn't bothered to tell them of her death.
They haven't seen him for years as he stopped contact soon after meeting his new wife, she took priority over them. He really is the pits, he didn't think to tell them that he had adopted his wife's children, they found out in a roundabout way. You cannot be lower than that, to neglect your own children then adopt someone else's children.
It won't be a barrel of laughs gong to the funeral, his ex-wife is likely to be quite unbearable. I will be going for her, and for my children. Fortunately I have a good friend who knew her and will come with me. It seems ironic that I should miss my own mother's funeral (she died the day after my stroke) then attend hers.
My ex-mother-in-law had rheumatic fever as a child and as a result she had a heart murmer. She was taken out of main school and home-schooled as she was so delicate, something fairly unusual in the UK. He robust sister who was great at sport and generally the 'healthy one' died when she was in her late sixties but my frail m-i-l lived on, and on, and on...
Yesterday she died, she was 102 last October! She spent the last twenty years of her life saying she wanted to die and get it over with, her husband was dead and things were happening that she didn't like - I won't go into details but it was to do with her son's choice of a second wife.
So far my ex hasn't bothered to contact me or our children to let us know, it was a family friend who told me.
One cannot be upset about her death, she was old and in poor health, blind and had dementia, so no quality of life. I just feel sorry for my children who have lost a grandmother and who have a father who hasn't bothered to tell them of her death.
They haven't seen him for years as he stopped contact soon after meeting his new wife, she took priority over them. He really is the pits, he didn't think to tell them that he had adopted his wife's children, they found out in a roundabout way. You cannot be lower than that, to neglect your own children then adopt someone else's children.
It won't be a barrel of laughs gong to the funeral, his ex-wife is likely to be quite unbearable. I will be going for her, and for my children. Fortunately I have a good friend who knew her and will come with me. It seems ironic that I should miss my own mother's funeral (she died the day after my stroke) then attend hers.
