Hi everyone, thanks for the replies and advice. My surgery is planned for Jan and I still have not decided. I had planned to go for the mechanical one, but the surgeon called and asked me to reconsider if I ever want to have children.
Now I am back to being undecided - I’ve read Pellicle‘s suggested threads which were helpful, but my surgeon and cardiologist believe it’s probably too risky to consider pregnancy on warfarin. I also have an underactive thyroid and apparently warfarin and levothyroxine don’t work well together, but I’m yet to research this further. I’ve been advised to consider the bovine valve for now, and a mechanical one next time. The comment someone made about risks of each surgery does worry me, especially regarding the effect on cognitive function, so I think I have some more research to do!
Hi Zara, I can't believe I missed your question as this is something I have experienced and have a LOT of thoughts about.
I was diagnosed with a bicuspid aortic valve at 19yo. I had my first OHS at 22yo, where after a lot of pressure from family members I had a tissue valve put in so that I could still have babies. This valve lasted only 5 years, and I managed to squeeze in two pregnancies in that time. I was very young.
I had a mechanical valve put in when I was 27yo. I ended up with heart block from the surgery and I have been pacemaker dependent for the past 18 years. That would be fine, but one of the leads interferes with my tricuspid valve, so I now have heart failure from tricuspid regurgitation. I also spent years suffering from PTSD due to the whole debacle. I'll probably need another surgery to address the tricuspid regurge at some point, the thought of which absolutely gives me the horrors.
From my point of view, I feel like my long-term health was sacrificed for the benefit of children I wasn't even sure I wanted. If I had known the risks of multiple surgeries and how awful surgery would be, I definitely would have done things differently. In my 30s I looked into having another pregnancy on warfarin, and while my doctors were happy to 'give it a go' I decided that the risks were too great. The threads on here about women's experiences of pregnancies with mech valves make for harrowing reading.
There is a very good chance that if I'd had the mech valve put in first time around my tricuspid valve would be fine now and my heart would still beat on its own. I suffered from severe anxiety for decades, and it is only in the past couple of years that I have been able to afford to get help for it.
Think very carefully about what each course of treatment could mean for you long term. You are older than I was when I had to make the decision, but to this day I greatly resent the way my ability to reproduce was prioritised over my ability to live a normal, active, healthy life. I'll never get my health back, but there are other ways to be a parent other than birthing your own children, if that is important to you. Of course I love my kids, I am fortunate that they are healthy and also that they are good people. But I'm only 46yo and the amount of support, time, effort and money it takes to keep me functional enough to enjoy my life is often overwhelming. My children's father has never expressed any gratitude for what it cost me to have them. He is still 100% healthy.
Mine is just one story, but it's a big decision, and women are so often pressured into doing what is best for others, not what is best for ourselves.
All the best for whatever you decide.