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I'm to go to a full-service nursing home for one month after surgery that looks like a combination of a fully-fledged hospital room with all the disability related accommodations meets a condominium.

The facility has 24 hour administrative in nursing staff, a beautiful view from the roof, cardiac rehab, a gym, places to walk inside and outside the building, three cooked meals a day, a small kitchen closet, a hospital style bed in a massive bathroom that's completely set up for disabled people. They've also got sofas and couches there for guests who want to sleep overnight with you. Since I don't drive and I don't have a car any hospital visits I need to do I'll just have them stick me in a taxi. I'm a bit picky about food as I'm plant-based you know full vegan eater so I'll try to fill the place up with my own food supplements 5 minutes medication and drag everything the hospital directly there along with books clothing. I could always order food from vegan restaurants or from grocery stores and have the staff cook it.

My concern is after I get back home which would be about 5 1/2 weeks after surgery I'm still worried about the glass door on my balcony that also leads to my kitchen that goes outside. I'm thinking I can just probably open it with my feet slide it back and forth with my feet

The bigger concern is to access the Elevator Shaft there's heavy heavy heavy glass doors one of them it's really tricky to get in and out of it because it only gives you a second to stick a foot in there the other one not so bad also sometimes people leave the doors open. The one on the bottom floor everybody uses so you could just wait around for somebody but the one on my floor sometimes it could be really a long wait for somebody to open up the door we don't have stairs unless there's a fire and I'm on the 7th floor. Most of the buildings in Thailand have lots of glass doors because thousands of people live in these buildings. I'm not going to go live in a house or a town home so that's not an option. So I'm worried about when I get home how am I going to cook buy groceries get in and out of these glass doors I'm assuming by 5 and 1/2 Weeks I can get in and out of a taxi solo.

Just want to confirm I'm not counting on anybody I'm constantly fighting with my girlfriend and I think we're going to be ending soon. When I do the surgery I may have another girlfriend or girlfriend :) it's Thailand so it's not that hard to get a girlfriend or many girlfriends. I do have a lot of friends and in my current building a lot of neighbors so hopefully some of them will pitch in for me. I'm planning on getting a minimal incision and I'm a fitness fanatic go to the gym walk ride bikes and do heavy weight lifting every single day so I think I'll recover pretty quickly.

Thanks for listening everybody and I hope you guys are having a beautiful beginning of the week

with blessings David
 
If you are in pretty good shape going into surgery, you should recover quickly. At 6 weeks I was told I could drive. After my 3rd surgery, I felt I could drive 8 minutes to my cardiologist appt in only 4 weeks.
But, when released in only 4 days after my 2nd surgery, my then lazy husband pulled into a fast food place because I had to use the bathroom before we even left the area of my hospital. I got out of the car on my own, pulled open that heavy glass door of the burger place and used the restroom. When I got back in the car, I thought I probably shouldn’t have opened that heavy door. But I was okay.
I was in worse condition going into that 2nd surgery, in CHF so my recovery was just harder, not necessarily longer.
Also, one shouldn’t get a lady friend to be one’s unpaid nurse!!
 
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Ha I am not planning on "forcing" my gf to stay with me for post op.

But ask yourselves this as most of you seem to have partners and families and safe "vanilla" 9-5 lives back in your home country:

How would you feel about recovering from surgery 100% solo with no friends, family or neighbors to take care of you ??

What if your family of origin was dead and you somehow had not managed to find a partner and/or had kids ?

What if there was no "hubby" partner, kids, parents, grand kids, whatever and you couldn't count on friends, neighbors, good Samaritans ?

How would you manage at a practical level ? Psychologically ?

Would the spectre of going into old age, the rest of your life, surgery and post op alone scare you ?

Be honest
 
If you are in pretty good shape going into surgery, you should recover quickly. At 6 weeks I was told I could drive. After my 3rd surgery, I felt I could drive 8 minutes to my cardiologist appt in only 4 weeks.
But, when released in only 4 days after my 2nd surgery, my then lazy husband pulled into a fast food place because I had to use the bathroom before we even left the area of my hospital. I got out of the car on my own, pulled open that heavy glass door of the burger place and used the restroom. When I got back in the car, I thought I probably shouldn’t have opened that heavy door. But I was okay.
I was in worse condition going into that 2nd surgery, in CHF so my recovery was just harder, not necessarily longer.
Also, one shouldn’t get a lady friend to be one’s unpaid nurse!!
Gail--I don't have a car I don't have a husband/wife--you are truly blessed to have these things...How would you have recovered solo and with no car ? So don't talk down to me about having a gf around to help post op...In Asia one care pay anyone to do anything including for sex, temporary girlfriend, help at home, etc, etc Everything here is purely transactional
 
I thought you were planning on staying at a recovery place for 5 weeks or so?
I wasn’t putting you down, just letting you know my opinion on calling someone a gf when you really want a nurse. But really, after 5 1/2 weeks you will be doing fine going home on your own.
Yes, I had a husband, but I could tell as my surgery count went up, he wasn’t happy about it and I was basically alone after only a few days at home. I did fine.
You might find you are emotional after surgery. That’s normal even with a spouse to visit you and take you home. I’ll bet a neighbor will drive you to after surgery appts. You will find the time goes by fast and you’ll be recovered. People around you will assume you are totally back to your before surgery self. But it takes time mentally to deal with that scar and what it meant.
 
I had a husband, but I could tell as my surgery count went up, he wasn’t happy about it and I was basically alone after only a few days at home
Gail - I am very sorry to hear about his behavior. I pray you find emotional support from other people in your life. You deserve it. Your picture shows you with a dog; I hope they are still with you!
 

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