Hi-wife of Liam-
I'm wife of Joe. Yes, this is a terrific place. We have everything here, wonderful information, thanks to so many members who are researching all the time, wonderful and knowledgeable support, and a little fun thrown in. Please come here often. I know, from my own experiences that it will help you too, and will help you to help your husband as well.
Here's what I have come to understand over the many, many years of living with Joe's extremely serious heart and lung problems. The big picture is that the patient sees the doctor a few times every year. That's really not much, and there is so much that goes on at home, when there is no medical professional there. Granted, the phone is close by and we can always go to the ER, but for the day to day living and maintenance of these kinds of problems, you almost have to have some medical training yourself. So most of us will read and read and read about things and learn how to recognize when something serious is happening.
It can be a lot to handle, but if Joe and I weren't as aware of all of the ramifications of his conditions, I don't believe he would be here.
He has excellent and caring doctors, they handle the big things, but I'm here at home trying to manage the smaller things, such as his diet (which is no salt, and Coumadin friendly), keeping track of how he feels from day to day (vitals are done each day), researching all of the latest developments, interfacing with his various medical specialists and making sure his medications are taken properly and making sure all his prescriptions don't run out.
I also give him injections 3 times per week, Procrit, for his anemia.
I think many people on the site have found that friends and family don't always have any understanding of the problems attached with this surgery and the attending conditions. Our daughters are probably the only ones who understand, the rest of the family knows that he has medical problems, but some of them don't even remember that he's had heart surgery or lung surgery (he's had 3 heart, and 2 lung), they don't know that he has a pacemaker, or that he has CHF, cardiomyopathy, severe anemia, atrial fibrillation, or pulmonary hypertension. So you are among friends when you have found the same lack of understanding.
That's what keeps us coming back here. We all understand and there is no need to explain beyond a simple description. It's a big relief to find people in the same situation.
So I hope we see the both of you often.