Deanne, just managed to get on myself (time) and read your post; I am so glad that you seem to be getting somewhere, and hope that you'll get a real plan of action on Tuesday.
As for the bypass, it seems to me that Brian has been in hospital several times over the summer, and it seems that it has been mostly kidney issues, so this could be a really, really good thing, if I am remembering rightly. If his kidney is not functioning well, it can impact so much more of the body's systems, causing many complictions and even making CHF worse and all that. So, even that seems positive to me - it might keep hm out of hospital and healthier and stronger for a good bit longer!
Now, waiting for Tuesday . . .