Hello Steve
Welcome to a wonderful place---the site, not the disease!!! Everyone here is knowledgeable, helpful, and supportive. My husband, Tyce, had AVR surgery this past June. Right now he is cleaning out the fireplace, dumping ashes and putting out salt for our iced walkway. Wegetable????, I don't think so, but definitely my favorite!!
Tyce was monitored for about 3 years prior to his surgery. Twice yearly they did an echo and we knew the opening was calcifying. It wasn't until he couldn't get to sleep (for about a week or two--and extremely unlike him) that we found out he was in afib. As our cardio said, THAT IS YOUR SIGN that surgery was due.
Everyone is different as to the progression of their disease. Our cardio told Tyce it would be about a year to a year and a half before we would have to consider surgery and it turned out to be about 9 months.
Please look at my thread in presurgery---A wife's questions.....everyone on this list will tell you I was quite the basketcase. You can pretty much follow everything that happened to us through those threads, if you're interested.
I guess the most important thing I can say, retrospectively, is that there's no need to panic---easier said than done, but true nonetheless. All of the advice you've been given has been excellent, especially writing down your questions prior to your visits. Remember,too, that this is just as big an issue with your family, if not bigger, than it is with you. You will all go through many different emotions. Please feel free to have your wife contact me or anyone else on this list if she has issues.....we are ALL here to help you.
I wish you the very best in your journey.....this is a wonderful group with lots and lots of sound advice and love to share.
Evelyn