My heart is broken

[lcwhitney]

I am so sorry you lost your wife. I wish I could change this for you. Time will heal you enough to go on. Please for yourself and for the memory of your wife take extra special care of your self over the next few months. I know that your wife would want you to do this as much for yourself as for her eventhough she is not physically with you she will always be in your heart. You said that she got you through your heart surgery, she would want you to continue to take good care of yourself. By taking care of yourself like she is looking over your shoulder you are doing the best thing you can do to honor her memory. I am sure that if you had not survived you heart problems she would be doing the samething for herself now without you.

Lettitia

 

[joy]

Rob, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I recently lost my uncle due to a sudden heart attack. I think that the loss of a spouse or child has to be the hardest thing to have to go through. You are in my thoughts and prayers. We will all be here for you. ALthough this is a heart forum, we are more than just a valvereplacement website. We are all your family, and are here to support you.

 

[Mark Wagner]

Dear Robt,
I am terribly sorry to hear of your loss. I in no way can imagine what you must feel. You have a lot of online friends here. "May God's Peace, comfort you during this very difficult time."

God be with you ... Mark

 

[chilihead]

Rob,

My heart goes out to you. I lost one of my best friends about a month ago and jst last week a coworker died while riding his bicycle in the park. I know the low you are feeling but wnated to let you know it will get better with time. Treasure the memories of your wife and her spirit will live on within you.

Our prayers go out to you and your family.

 

[Robt Z]

Poems for my late wife (#1 of 4)

Poems for my late wife (#1 of 4)

Thank you fellow valvereplacement members. Here is the first of 4 poems I wrote. This was read at the funeral service:


Saturday, June 21, 2003

To Tiffany from Robert

SLEEP IN PEACE

Tiffany Tiffany
Eyes of blue
I am so glad
I married you

Each day with you
Was a gift
And you know
How much you'll be missed

You would love the flowers
which are here today
They are so pretty and nice
I could hear you say

You are loved by all of us
Who are here today
And by many others
Who are far away

It hurts me so
To let you go
How I will live
I do not know

I will try to find solace
When for you I weep
From the way you look now
So peaceful and asleep

 

[Ross]

That was beautiful. Are you going to post the other 3?

 

[fyrfytr]

Hi Robt,
That was a very nice poem. I hope you post the others. Again We are so sorry for your loss.


Dave
_____________________________________
Surgery: 4/21/03
Aortic Aneurysm Repair
AVR, with a St. Jude Mechanical
Heart Center of the Rockies

 

[nefarious_muse]

Robt,
I am so sorry to hear of your loss....

I'm kinda new here, but just wanted to offer my condolences...

My prayers are with you
Nef

 

[bvdr]

Thank-you for letting us read your poem. I too would like to read the others.

Betty(bvdr)

 

[hensylee]

Robert - thank you for sharing your feelings through your lovely tribute to Tiffany. It is beautiful.

 

[Nancy]

Dear Robert-

The love you have for Tiffany is so beautifully expressed in your poetry. She is surely smiling from above. Please post the others.

 

[Robt Z]

2nd poem of 4

2nd poem of 4

I wrote this a couple days after the funeral:
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Monday, June 23, 2003

For my wife Terry, From Robert

Once There Was A Way

Her lips were warm
As a summer's day
Her hands were cool
And led my way

Her face like sunshine
On a beautiful day
Her heart so pure
Like the ocean's spray

I loved her more
And more each day
Now she is gone
I have lost my way

Under the ground
She rests and sleeps
Above it I live
I cry, I weep

Once I was happy
She was with me
She told me she loved me
As much as I she

Now here I sit
Typing like this
When once I had her
And her lips to kiss

 

[Robt Z]

Tiffany is Terry's nickname

Tiffany is Terry's nickname

Fellow valvereplacement member please know that my wife Terry also went by Tiffany to close friends and family. I still have the napkin from 1980 which she gave to me with "Tiffany" and her phone # on it. The posts you wrote to me mean alot. Its been 2 weeks since I watched her pass. Its different now... a heavier loss feeling is emerging... like this is how its gonna be...she's not here and wont be...it's hard any way you look at it. But I will be fine...I know it is a process which takes time...Like one of the doctors said... Its like a brick wall...you cant go through it and you cant go over it. RZ

 

[Rain]

I'm so sorry...

I'm so sorry...

I just read through this thread. I?m so very sorry to hear of your wife?s passing. I lost my Mom almost two years ago. I still have dreams about her and wake up wondering for a few minutes if she?s still alive and it was all a dream that she died. I was my ?mama?s baby?... the baby of eight children. I?m sure there will never be a day as long as I live that I don?t think about her. My mom was 80 years old... I was 40...... you?d think I would have expected it.. been ready for it... I don?t know how you ever get ready to lose someone who means more to you than your own life. I know it helps to have someone to share your grief with. I come from a family who shows no emotion. I tried not to cry or be weak in front of my own children... I now realize that was a mistake.

Please know you will always have your vr.com family to lean on when you need us. Thanks for sharing your poems. I have a few I found and saved after my Mom died.

 

[nadi]

A Beautiful tribute

A Beautiful tribute

Robt,

Your poems are wonderful. Thank you for sharing with us.

Please take care,

 

[Creed3]

Robert,
I am so terribly sorry for your loss. Even though Tiffany is not there with you in body, she is most definately with you in spirit, in your heart and in all the beautiful memories you have. Your poems are absolutely beautiful and Thank You for sharing them with us. They are very touching. As I was reading them I could just imagine how she must be looking down on you and smiling at the beautiful words filled with so much love and emotion. Like some of the others have said already, please take care of yourself during this difficult time. I'm sure your wife would have wanted you to take good care of yourself right now. It sounds like the two of you had a very caring, loving and romantic relationship. May God be with you during this very difficult time.

Gail

 

[Robt Z]

poem #3 of 4

poem #3 of 4

The kindness of this web site is very nice. Here is poem #3 which I cant help but feel every day when I go to the mailbox in this Midwestern heat. By the way Michael is her brother who was there with us much of the time.RZ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Tuesday, June 24, 2003

To my lovely wife, Terry, who I miss dearly, from Robert

AND THE SUMMER CAME

It is humid and hot outside
The summer heat wears me out
I go only to the mailbox
Where sympathy cards come out

It was Springtime last I knew
We sat on our porch together
T'was May and you were with me
I shall remember that time for ever

You went through your cards and letters
From years ago and from now
The cool Spring air was upon us
How I wish that time was now

I hoped the hospital could save you
You struggled to stay alive
The surgeons would not operate
Doctors said you could not survive

Hospice was our last time together
We watched as birds and deer went by
You loved the pretty flowers
And Michael and I watched you die

The first day of summer you were buried
Our family and friends said goodbye
The summer came suddenly for me
Alone I will strive to survive

 

[McCln]

Rob

Rob

Sorry to be late with the condolences, but I am so sorry for your loss. It is so lucky that your pet is there for you. Take your time in the healing process. Some people take a long time. You will be fine soon. Just remember the good times and cherish all the memories. You hang in there now and are here for you.

Caroline
09-13-01
Aortic valve replacement
St. Jude's valve

 

[Bob]

Hey Man, I dont have any magic words to take the pain away nor can I saw anything that hasn't already been said but when things get bad just remember there are a whole bunch of friends that are thinking of you.

 

[Robt Z]

you guys/gals are alright

you guys/gals are alright

I just gotta tell you all that it is nice to get your posts. It's just nice. You are alright. It makes me feel better for a time. That is good. RZ