pardon me, but "like WTF"?
firstly I think its way too early to make a comment like that when someone is actually being helpful. Men should be able to talk to each other like men (not purposely taking offense like a bunch of fragile snowflakes).
An adult should be able to accept that "there is ambiguity in text messages" and that it takes a few examples of what someone says to remove that and judge its premature.
You don't know
@Timmay yet, but I do and I can say that from what I know of him hes the least mean spirited person I know.
I suggest you watch this segment, maybe go on to watch the whole movie to see an example of a man who actually cares but is perhaps not so "woke" in his speech ...
... and consider asking yourself if your comment and accusation may have been based on a context of some post surgical depression (very real) and not a true reflection of who you would otherwise be.
lastly people have said to me (here) that
honey attracts more flies than vinegar. To which I reply "and bullshlt attracts even more, but why do I want to attract flies?
I come here for genuinely helping others, not blowing smoke up their arse. So if you construed Timmays words as hurtful somehow, the why not actually point out the specifics and ask "what did you mean by this" before pronouncing "
mean spirited" sentence. Because if he just spoke in a way that rankled you but intended the best then it was not
mean spirited.
Best Wishes