I can't stop crying

[Carnelian]

I search Google Scholar or academic databases for professional peer reviewed studies, though they may not be full text, or you can purchase it. Some public or academic libraries have access to medical databases. It usually takes much time and patience.

If this disturbs you in future then maybe a psychiatrist is worth visiting with insurance..

 

[almost_hectic]

If this disturbs you in future then maybe a psychiatrist is worth visiting with insurance..

If what is disturbing?

 

[LondonAndy]

It is an interesting question, but not quite sure why it is a problem. I think I cry at things quite readily - be they dog rescues on Facebook videos, or dramatic scenes in films. Since reading this question I have been wondering if this has increased since heart surgery, but can't remember! Never thought of it as a problem though. Aren't 21st century men supposed to embrace their emotions?

(If it progresses to wailing, then yes, you have a problem!)

 

[d333gs]

The lack of response to the original post suggests the subject is still pretty taboo. I think it is a result of increased empathy after a the traumatic event of heart surgury.I guess the issue is that you dont want the uncontrolled physical reaction that takes place along with it. Is it something you are beginning to dread? Like a blushing episode? Which makes the whole thing worse........

 

[carolinemc]

The lack of response to the original post suggests the subject is still pretty taboo. I think it is a result of increased empathy after a the traumatic event of heart surgury.I guess the issue is that you dont want the uncontrolled physical reaction that takes place along with it. Is it something you are beginning to dread? Like a blushing episode? Which makes the whole thing worse........

they are in denial that they are depressed and do suffer urges to cry. I did the first two years, due to my job's supervisor at the time, made us work a few Saturday's and it was very hard on me trying to still heal from surgery. But her boss stopped the nonsense.

 

[almost_hectic]

they are in denial that they are depressed and do suffer urges to cry. I did the first two years, due to my job's supervisor at the time, made us work a few Saturday's and it was very hard on me trying to still heal from surgery. But her boss stopped the nonsense.

Sorry, but you’re wrong

 

[Estrazz]

I too was very emotional for several months post op. Like the OP, the smallest things set me into an emotional rollercoaster. Songs, commercials, even the way someone or one of my dogs would look at me. It sure did not take much to get the waterworks going. Now, I too am back to "normal".

 

[Superman]

Aren't 21st century men supposed to embrace their emotions?

Be cautious around men too in touch with their emotions. Chances are, the only emotions they are in touch with are their own.

Goes back prior to the 21st century though. I recall the expression, “I’m a sensitive man of the ‘90’s”, being used quite often back in the day.

 

[newarrior]

Some statistics have shown anywhere from 20 to 40% of patients undergoing heart surgery can have it. It’s presence can cause an increased risk of poor outcomes. Along with drugs, excercise, getting some cognitive behavioral therapy. Don’t know that the latter works well on older population.

I've got severe depression lifelong that's treatment resistant even with medication and Decades of therapy so I'm terrified what the surgery is going to do to my pre-existing depression insomnia anxiety.

 

[newarrior]

The lack of response to the original post suggests the subject is still pretty taboo. I think it is a result of increased empathy after a the traumatic event of heart surgury.I guess the issue is that you dont want the uncontrolled physical reaction that takes place along with it. Is it something you are beginning to dread? Like a blushing episode? Which makes the whole thing worse........

You mean depression? Absolutely anything related to emotional or mental Wellness as well as health is scary even in the developed Western world even among educated people. Nobody in my experience or most people don't have the courage to talk about depression anxiety mental or emotional Wellness or even about aging or death or health problems.

 

[newarrior]

Yep - there's tons of data that heart surgery can have long term effects on a number of hormonal systems. There *isn't* a lot of clear data about what specific effects to expect. Depression seems to be relatively common, as is various types of ED/libido supression.

For me, I was fine for about 3 months, then had a very bad bout of severe depression. An SSRI/SNRI helped significantly, at least partially because it improved my sleep quality. Sleep hygiene is really critical for overall mood issues.

Separate from the depression, I have been more emotional. Highs are higher, lows are lower. My gratitude practice, which predates my heart issues by some 20 years, is more resonant. I've had to depend on my anger control practices more often, and to some extent, they've been more effective. That is, it's been easier to let angering stuff roll off my back.

YMMV.

I was diagnosed with depression and 94 along with anxiety but I remember having it at least as far back as grade school if not earlier. Some of us are highly sensitive. Some people might want to read the book called The highly sensitive person by Elaine aaron. Also the people have had a lot of losses and having heart surgery is a major loss will trigger depression sensitivity etc

 

[carolinemc]

You mean depression? Absolutely anything related to emotional or mental Wellness as well as health is scary even in the developed Western world even among educated people. Nobody in my experience or most people don't have the courage to talk about depression anxiety mental or emotional Wellness or even about aging or death or health problems.

It is sometimes the stigma about talking about it in the open. Many people believe mental illness is a weakness and should be kept in a closet. But we all know better about that, but it is the talking about it period and admitting to the depression. I am more apt to depression as a Type 2 Diabetic. Have had been to the darkness before, hiding from the world. But luckily, my former dog , Dixie, save me after it was there for a few months. I will be talking to one of my health team helpers in the next few months about it. It did hurt to admit it to myself that I can get depressed.