Sheridan,
Don't worry about the long-term depression. It comes and goes and not everyone is prone to it long term. I've read that up to 70% of post OHS patients go through some depression, even those who don't normally get it. More likely than not, you'll find the depression will lift for keeps within the first year of surgery. I've struggled with clinical depression badly over the years even prior to my OHS. My surgery was 12/12/07, and the following summer I didn't want to do hardly anything. I let fruit rot on the ground, the lawn overgrow terribly, and even didn't do much with my rock hobby, except a trip to Virgin Valley in June to try to find some nice opals. I didn't find much in the way of nice opals--I felt terribly let down, so I fell into a depression that made July and August miserable to the point I didn't enter anything in the local county fair--except for a few chickens last minute. Instead my family took a trip to California to spend a week with my mother. It helped some. The autumn was okay, and I put in a lot of wood for the winter. Sad to say this winter I hardly burned any of it--just too depressed. There were a few bright spots, such as my first snowboarding since the surgery, and another fun tubing trip with my kids' Tae Kwon Do school. But then we nearly lost our dog Andromeda, but (praise God!) she's recovered completely and is still with us. Still, the house remains terribly cluttered. I am still completely unemployed with not even distant prospects on the horizon.
On the positive side, my depression seems to have lifted with the season and I have resumed writing my science fiction after a several year hiatus. I have also joined my children in taking Tae Kwon Do. My son is high green belt, my daughter high yellow, and I'm white belt with two stripes so far. I led a rock hunting expedition into Idaho's Outback--the Owyhee/Elmore county border area--led 10 other vehicles deep into the desert and everyone found lots of good rocks. Also did a caving expedition for my children's school upper grades and for the first time I was able to exert myself without gasping like a fish out of water, despite my weight gain. That alone drove home to me the fact that my valve is truly fixed--despite being out of shape, I was able to catch up by merely breathing a bit deeper and faster; before such measures were ineffective and would leave me more prostrated than ever and my body just seemed to know it. Apparently such was my condition for so long, I actually have to consciously make myself breathe deeper and faster--but it works! I presume it will become instinctive as soon as my body figures out how effective it now is. Yes, my increased girth has made doing crunches and toe-touching stretches quite uncomfortable, but I can now quickly recover, whereas before I would feel drained for quite some time even when I was 30 lbs. thinner after moderate exertion. Now I think I'll work on weight loss--the winter blues made me prone to eating a lot more than a used. Perhaps I should go to one of the throwdowns such as Cooker's and become accountable for my weight loss. Funny thing is that I crossed 200 lbs. going up while he passed below 200 lbs. I was 206 lbs. the last time I weighed.
My suggestion is to get involved with some group activity involving some sort of physical activity--restricted lifting of course due to the recent surgery, but with your fixed heart, the aerobic part shouldn't be much of a problem--pending clearance from your physician of course. Getting involved with one of the ongoing activities on some of the other forums here could help you with the first few months out. Some folks here stay for the long term, while others, like me, find lots of offline life getting in the way of regular posting here. However, for those of you who have missed Laura's and my posts here, we're still going on and we'll try to not be so scarce in the future.
Take Care and God Bless!
Chris