I've mainly stayed out of this thread, except to say after quite a few people said Emu was wrong that there were not PMs sent about joining the other site (which if there was, it happens in alot of groups) that there were. Just because someone didn't get one, doesn't mean no one did. People even posted messages there, about a member here that they were going to PM to invite them to join HVP.
I don't think people are hurt or even care that there is another support group. I belong to several CHD groups, many of them branched off from the big first group many of us belonged to and started other groups that had different focuses, wether specific CHDs or local groups, or maybe they wanted to focus on fundraising or awareness along with support. It is fine and many people belong to a couple groups and there aren't hard feelings.
I think where alot of the hard feelings come from is people who did check the new group and looked around to get the feel of the group, like most people do when they find an online group, and saw many posts started just to talk about VR members by name (not in a nice way) that were either friends of theirs, or themselves, or talk about what is going on here or criticize VR or Hank ect. Which is even understandable right when a new groups starts, especially if the members all came from another group, but usually that is short lived and then they don't pay attention to the other groups and instead focus on their goals and members, but months after HVP started many posts were about the terrible members here.
I don't find this thread childish, there is 1 thread that mentioned he missed some members and hoped more wouldn't leave, and others voiced some hurt feelings. Of course peoples feeling are going to be hurt, when they read hurtful things coming from people who act nice here and say completely different things at the other site. IS it ALL of the members there that join in on the bashing there? ..NO of course not. Just like not all the members get involved in any of the not pleasent threads here.
BUT what I DO find childish, is when a member (who rarely posts here) posted over there, that he was going to start a thread here JUST to upset a certain member here (by name) and not one person told him not to or maybe he should just leave VR alone if he wasn't happy ect. Some thought it would be funny.
So he did post a thread here JUST to annoy a member that posts alot here. THAT to me is childish. Saying on another group that you've been spending alot of time at VR because you enjoy watching confrontations is childish.
Maybe the new group was going through "growing pains" and now that they've been in existence longer, everything will settle down. I hope so. I personally welcome a second group. It gives valve replacement recipients a choice of information that can be accessed at all times. Hopefully things will settle down and then like all the different CHD groups I belong to, the only time other groups are mentioned is to ask for prayers for someone going thru a tough time.
