I have been reading all these posts and I am really confused....maybe I just need to re-read them. But I am moving along with the surgery.....I have lots of pre-op tests this month and my cath in feb....I see the surgeon towards the end of Feb for a valve replacement in March sometime. I am still leaning towards a tissue valve although this On-X is interesting. So confusing......I will discuss with my surgeon. I wanted to put everything off because my Mom who is 94 just had another MI last Tues and a CVA on Wed......she is still with us, Thank God!!.....But I really want to be there for her with her therapy. She has a lot of damage and deficit from CVA. I have been praying alot. I am blessed that she has survived all this.
Jeri, at 58, the choice between a mech valve and a tissue valve is in your hands. As Al says (paraphrasing), your preference will depend on which things you especially want to AVOID. Each choice brings its own different risks, but they seem to be about the same total SIZE, in terms of life expectancy or risks of bad outcomes. And one of them brings the routine nuisance of ACT, while the other brings the looming of specter of the strong likelihood -- almost a sure thing if you live a long life -- that you'll have to go through OHS & HVR all over again. Hopefully just once, and POSSIBLY through stent-like catheter implacement rather than having your "wishbone cracked" again. ACT brings risks as well as nuisance, and re-op also brings risks as well as "Yee-Yikes!", but the two sets of risks seem to be about the same size for a 58-year-old.
So it's a choice, and it's your choice. Some people here acknowledge that it's a tough and highly personal choice, and some seem to think that it's an obvious "no-brainer" in the direction of their OWN choice(!). Learn what you can, consult your own feelings and values and concerns and preferences and fears, get used to the sad fact that NONE of the options comes with a guarantee, talk to your health professionals and any other experts you can find, and make the best (or "least bad"?) decision FOR YOU, and hopefully find peace with that decision.
If you're still leaning toward a tissue valve and skipping the ACT, then you really don't have to get to the bottom of the discussion between Al and me about the two competing mechanical valves. Neither one holds much promise of avoiding ACT altogether, so all the mech valves still mean lifetime ACT -- which some people find a bloody nuisance and some people find a walk in the park, and which statistically brings risks that seem comparable to the tissue-valve risks (which are mostly from re-ops).
As far as delaying your operation so you can be there for your Mom, I don't think you've posted many of your specific test results, so I don't think we're in a position to "play doctor" to advise you on that. My impression is that you could probably wait a couple of months without much risk, but that you'd be at increasing risk of a number of bad outcomes, especially if it dragged on longer. One of the concerns is that your elective surgery could become emergency surgery. Another concern is that the surgery gets "bigger", or that your heart function ends up permanently compromised, because of the cardiac compensation and damage that's going on now in response to the specific damage they're planning to fix. Without details on your condition, we can't give you a busybody layman's "second opinion" about how urgent or important any of those considerations are today, or how important a month or two is.
One other consideration: it MAY make sense to delay the cath/angio and some of the other tests if you're planning to delay the surgery. The surgeons often want to do a lot of those tests pretty close to the time of the surgery, so if you go for them soon and then delay the OHS, you may end up having to have a second round of tests, which would be an extra bother and an extra expense for somebody. (I personally found the cath/angio unpleasant enough that I'd make a few phone calls to avoid a second one, though other's mileage varied. . .)
I hope that helps. Good luck to you and your mother!