Hi lemdonuts_
You've got plenty of company when you say you're scared. Just about everyone on this board who has had surgery has been scared. It's the most normal thing in the world.
There are also quite a few folks who didn't have much in the way of symptoms, and were, like you, blind-sided, when they were told they needed heart valve surgery.
The heart can compensate for aortic valve inadequacies for a long time, and gradually the heart starts to enlarge to try to pump out the blood more efficiently. But at a certain point, the heart can no longer keep up the pace and that's when things can happen very quickly. I think we have all agreed that it is the very best thing for your future health to get the surgery done sooner rather than later, because if it goes on too long, there are irreversible changes to the heart, and you will want to avoid that.
The surgery is done to save your life, years ago, when this wasn't available, people died. That's not the case any longer. The surgery is highly perfected now, and the mortality rate is very low, somewhere between 1 and 2 percent.
You will only be in the hospital between 5 and 7 days, and some have come home even sooner. That's a small chunk out of your life, to get rid of your heart problems.
The surgeons who do this are highly skilled, They are in and out of people's hearts every day and sometimes more than once. Everything going on in your heart, they have seen and know how to fix. They have the very best surgical teams and anesthesiologists to work on you.
After surgery, you will be taken care of by the best nurses in the hospital, in the ICU. It's a one to one ratio. There will be all kinds of very high-tech machinery hooked up to you to keep your first days safe.
The pain is very well controlled. They want you to be close to pain-free, because you will be doing lots of deep breathing to keep your lungs in good condition, and amazingly, you will be up and walking by around day 2.
Once you leave the ICU, you will go to a step-down unit where you will be walking more and more. The nursing care in the step-down unit is every bit as good as the ICU.
Even though you are not very symptomatic, after a couple of months, you will see how good you are feeling. It is then that you will realize how tired you had become with a heart that is not working up to speed.
You are young and strong. You will do just fine.
We have over 700 members here. That's a lot of heart surgeries. Others will be along soon to give you there experiences. We're all behind you as you approach your surgery date.
Wishing you all the best.