Hi Cherie
I know exactly how you feel, the decision that we are faced with it so damn difficult. My surgeon wouldn't suggest one way or another. She gave me the risks involved, the length of time for each one and said it is a personal choice. So you will most likely find yourself sitting on the fence trying to make a decision for awhile. If you have read my thread then you know that I am leaning towards a tissue one as opposed to mechanical. Besided my celiac, <snipped>
The comments about the surgery sucked, well I can't comment on that. I watched the youtube movie Andy posted and it didn't seem too bad. I have had lots of words of encouragement that it isn't as bad as we think it will be. So I don't know there seems to be quite a few difference of oppinions about how bad the surgery is. Confused? I am too! I think it just goes with what we are facing.
I didn't read this post very closely before now. Penny, I'm really surprised your surgeon has not strongly advised a tissue valve for you because of the celiac. How are you supposed to manage the ACT with celiac? I could just about pick my jaw up off the floor. Sounds really irresponsible on the doc's part, in your case, not to steer you towards a tissue valve; your decision is far more than a "personal" choice. I'm a bit surprised by the attitudes of some docs in letting the patient decide, especially in situations where one clearly seems advised over another, seems reckless to me.
As far as how bad the surgery is, well, I wish I could define just
what is so bad about it. All the tubes, and this and that and being in ICU, not really that big of a deal, certainly not fun, but not a terrible experience. Pain? Geesh, I rate it about a 2 on a scale of 1-10, with 10 being the worst, so it's not pain that makes it tough. (I did not have a sternotomy, so not sure of the difference in pain.) I spent about 7 days total in ICU and the care was outstanding. My doctors were wonderful, so no problems with either of these, but every day just seemed like such an effort. If you don't know the story of Sisyphus, look it up, because that's kind of how I felt every day in the hospital. It got much better the first week I was home, but then I had lots of SOB and and some INR problems. Rolling the boulder up the hill again every day. It was a good few months before I felt even modestly good.
It was much more difficult than I anticipated and I've been through a fair amount of doctor/hospital stuff in my life as an adult and child. I certainly feel it's all worth it and am grateful to have had something that could be fixed, but it's just not all lollipops and rainbows after surgery.