Grace:
I had a heart cath the day before my surgery and stayed overnight. Because I was going to my parents' home for 2 weeks when I was discharged, I had to take more things than otherwise.
I took everything in a TravelPro rolling suitcase. When I was rolled out of my first room to surgery, my husband just rolled my suitcase out to his car in the parking lot and then went into the waiting room. I had surgery @ 7 a.m. and stayed overnight in ICU. I was in a private room the next morning, maybe by noon. My husband, who had spent the night at my parents' home, brought my suitcase back to me then. I had my cellphone & phone directories, some reading material, toiletries, clothing. My mom or my husband kept my purse until I was discharged, I think.
My parents had insisted on taking care of me for 2 weeks after discharge. I had pooh-poohed that idea at first, then agreed and I'm glad I did. My husband works 4-day 40-hour workweeks in June & July and gets home later than usual, and he's exhausted. We live 50 miles from the hospital & cardio; my parents are much closer. Plus it was nice not to have to worry about meals, entertainment, etc. I had no appetite, so my mom focused on trying to get me to eat. My dad hovered over me, took me to doctors' appointments, made sure I was comfortable, constantly asking if there was anything he could do for me ("Please change bodies with me!" I'd joke
). My middle sister, who lived nearby, was my "social director," renting movies for us to watch at night.
I was grateful for their help and I really enjoyed being with them those two weeks. It was really boring when I went back home and was alone all day.