Oh Joy,
It makes me sad that you have such a painful attitude ragarding leaders and leadership, as well as, the plight of enlisted personnel in the military. I will be the first to admit that some things happen that no one should be proud of, however:
I know for both enlisted and officer ranks(I am former navy and my three sons are former enlisted Navy, Marine, and my youngest is Army Airborne) Officers and NCO's are taugh to "lead from the front" and that means go where your people are about to go. If we had to be out at "zero dark thirty" for whatever, thats where the Officers and NCO's were too. Interestingly when my youngest son went to parachute jump school on the day of his first jump the first three parachute "dummies" that made the jump on that day, in that condition, was the commanding general and his two highest level aids/executive officers. And that was the way it always is for "jump week" when these folks make their qualifing jumps.
I believe the president has taken the small pox vaccination or is about to.
As for spraying a carrier with anthrax- I do not know of this experiment, not saying it didn't happen. Have to believe everyone was vaccinated first! And remember a large carrier with it's airgroup is 5000+ people. There are hundreds of officers and usually an Admiral aboard, so it is just not a bunch of E-3 and below getting this treatment. You better believe a one or two star will not sit still for mistreatment of his ships or his personnel.
Not to say that the military is a soft life or a perfect world. But, neither is the private sector, large organizations do have some problems, but most are anxious to correct the defects.
I know you had a tough go recently with your husband stuck in San Diego trying to get back to you when you really needed him, for that I am truely sorry and wished I could "pull some strings" to help out. My youngest son is in Korea now completing a yearlong tour(if there is further deployment of the 82nd Airborne, he may be forced to stay longer in Korea. He was married on January 12, 2002 and shipped to Korea on February 15, 2002, not the ideal way to start married life. He didn't like it one little bit. However, while he was there he did re-enlist inspite of the "mistreatment" maybe for some of the same reasons you and your family are still in, but on balance the military does offer a good job.
As for the testing vaccines on the troops, I think they are doing the best they can to "protect" those that are most likely to be exposed. I remember well an incident in 1962 when the carrier group I was with got ordered to go from the east coast to Peru, as we headed for the Panama Canal a top speed every person was ordered to sickbay for shot updates. Anyone who had not had the tropicals in the proper time frame were given the shot. Typhus, yellow fever, colera, etc. Not fun but getting the disease is worse over the entire group. Our Captain and Admiral were right in line like the rest showing their shot cards and exposing their arms. We had all been vaccinated for smallpox back in that day already.
I hope I haven't fueled the fire too much, but do not think the leaders of today are as bad as you suggest, they are humans too and doing the best with what they have to work with.
My very best wishes to you and yours for a better year ahead.
Bill