It's a new normal you'll have to define for yourself. I was 42 at my surgery, and a CDL driver. I was driving my car at 5 weeks, and back in the big driver seat at 12 weeks per DOT regulations. I probably could have driven the bus at 9 or 10 weeks, but I was still taking naps. I new I had to be out for 12 weeks, so I kinda milked it.
The first week home was consumed with napping, eating, showering, and walking a little bit further each day. I suppose I could have managed on my own, but my sister was here.
The second week home was a little less napping and a lot more walking. I could have managed on my own, but my mom was her. She took me out each day - to the mall for walking, to visit an old family friend, to get my nails done, etc. It was borderline exhausting, but better than sitting home.
The third week home was a lot less napping. My brother was here, and we just hung out a lot. He drove me around for one of my part time jobs - I had to sit in the back seat, it was funny.
My fourth week home I was finally left alone by myself in the house while my husband was at work - it was delightful! It was the first time I had been alone in 4 weeks! I unloaded the dishwasher one piece at a time. I did my laundry, using tongs to get the wet clothes out of the washer.
Fifth week I began driving and started cardiac rehab. I took myself on a few local field trips to attractions I wouldn't usually go to, just for something to do.
I mean, with a little planning ahead, there wont be too many inconveniences. Cups with lids & straws, nothing too high up or too low down on a shelf. Quarts of milk instead of gallons. Pre-made and frozen meals - in serving sizes.
Honestly, my biggest issue being home was getting in and out of bed. I was terrified I would hurt myself, so I moved like an unoiled rusty tin man. I stills struggle 5 years later with rolling over in bed. But when I consider the alternative,....
Oh yeah, I was back to riding roller coasters and thrill rides at about 11 weeks. TOTALLY worth the wait!
Every day it got a little easier - I could breathe deeper, walk farther, stay awake longer. It won't be as awful as you imagine. I thought I would be laid up for months. (I wasn't) My siblings thought they would have to help me in the bathroom (they didn't - !)
Meredith
Holiday FL