A couple of things to consider:
For what comfort it may bring, a pulmonary replacement is not usually considered as dire as an aortic or mitral replacement.
Also, a large study on reoperation concludes that second valve surgeries ("revalving") have a 25% lower mortality rate than first ones.
Having said that, please realize that we all realize that OHS is OHS, regardless. It is a big deal, any time surgeons visit there. Scary and traumatic. The points are made to comfort you in some small way, not to trivialize the surgery in any manner.
Your son is probably too active to go without a pulmonary valve, although BVDR's post does bring up that it is not usually as critical a part of the picture as the other valves, if it leaks. Unfortunately, if the problem is stenosis, it does become critical. And while I think it is great that you are trying to give the decision to him, you are still the one who can help him to understand his situation and the information that he needs, so he can make clear choices.
Bryan's right about the high failure rate of aortic homografts in the pulmonary position. I've read it, too, and it's hard at first to understand why, as the valve should have it easier. However, that must be the very thing that makes it work less well - apparently, the valve "sets" to work in high pressure, and when it doesn't have that pressure, it encounters problems.
Which makes me realize that my prior posting is unclear about that - when I was referring to the fact that it would be an aortic valve, I meant that an animal tissue valve used in the pulmonary position would be a standard aortic replacement valve, as they don't make a distinction between that and the pulmonary when making them as far as I have seen on the company sites. The homograft is a different issue, as Bryan pointed out.
If there is still concern about that issue, the bovine type is manufactured from bovine pericardial tissue, rather than being a natural, "used" valve, which the porcine is, so it would have no "bent" to be either aortic or pulmonary. I am not aware of that issue in other than the homograft, though.
Another thought is that one has to wonder about Coumadin use for your son, depending on what the mild bleeding disorder is. That should be run by the doctor. His choices may be limited by that.
Again, I wish your family strength to get you through this trying time. It is difficult to go through such a harrowing experience, begin to believe that you are past it, and be thrown back into its teeth again so cruelly soon. My heart goes out to you.
Best wishes,