I try to stay out these, but the gravitational pull of this thread has taken me.
I'm not sure what happens psychologically to most readers when they see a post that they don't agree with, but the process for me is pretty simple. I read a thread, engage with what I feel like I need to engage with and then get on with my day. I don't agree with everything I read. If you're an individual who only listens to surgeons, then that's fine. If you're one who likes to get into the weeds and do your own research, that's also fine? Don't engage if you're not interested in the content of people's replies OR just present your own ideas and opinions and move on. I think
@pellicle and I have disagreed on a few things on other threads...and that's fine? One of us says something, we read and respond. Agree or disagree, present alternate views if required and then move on?
When Christopher Hitchens appeared on Q&A in Australia with a few religious leaders, he said "As long as we keep having a civil conversation we don't need to keep reminding ourselves that that's what we're doing".
I'm not sure you can classify having strong opinions on topics as bullying. I'd say all the "disputes" that arise are usually due to a communication breakdown. Anyone with any common sense can see that there are pros and cons to both mech and tissue valves. That's why they are both available. Sometimes we have biases and that's okay too! Acknowledging your biases is important for emotional intelligence.
A few thoughts on some stuff I've read throughout the thread:
My cardiologist recommended that I get a tissue valve. At 50yo. Why? Because I am a young, healthy, active adult.
Ummmm ... what?
Yes. You read that correctly. The only reason that I was given for this recommendation was that I was a young, healthy, active adult. That is literally the EXACT reason that I should get a mechanical valve and not a tissue valve. So - listening to my cardiologist would have set me up for complete failure. I was told that tissue valves last 15+ years and then when it fails I could just get a TAVR. That is completely untrue. COMPLETELY. Thank goodness that I did not take his advice.
Re Timmay's point above: I can completely see your point of view here when looking at it from the "likelihood of a redo" angle. It sounds like your cardiologist definitely wasn't taking into account your personal perspective. However for me, I would prefer a tissue valve over a mech valve as a 'young, healthy, active adult', as my lifestyle does not suit warfarin. This is subjective. It DOESN'T mean you can't have an active lifestyle on warfarin. I'm not saying that. In fact, I think
@TheGymGuy (who is one of my favourite people on here) has a mech valve and is probably one of the most physically active person on the forum. I think where we go wrong in our communication is people read what I just wrote and respond with "YEAH BUT, look at x, y, z, you CAN have an active lifestyle on warfarin"... and to that I say, yep, you can. Correct. I just would prefer not to. For me, a tissue valve requires zero management, no changes to activity (I'm a climber and spend time at altitude and altitude fvcks with warfarin - Yes it can be managed, but I don't want to) and the risk of blood clots that come with a mech valve for someone like me with a family history of hypertension + an ex smoker of 10 years worries me. Not to mention that the new Inspira Resilia's billion cycle test (about 30 years, or 25 if you adjust for activity levels), looks pretty good and has been recommended by Australia's top surgeons for young fit people. Bias? Yeah probably. I would rather go with new tech.
Here are the interesting excerpts from the post:
July 9, 2014 Pellicle:
Dude - you don't like him, we get it, just ignore what you don't like. It'll be better for your mental health. Just respond to the content, don't stress over
@pellicle's character development from 2014 to now. He's fine.
Please be respectful to everyone in here, for we all are in this together. Be nice and polite to others here.
Spot on Caroline.
I hope so. One of my boys may some day need an intervention. So far so good. The longer he can wait the better. Still in mild territory in his 20’s. Hoping for never, but if it’s 10 or 20 years or more down the road, I’d love for him to have a realistic one and done option with no need for ACT. Or especially a truly durable TAVR option. I’m glad they keep working at it.
Superman - I have a 6 month old boy, any advice on early check ups/monitoring of familial aortic issues? Cardiologist seems to think not to worry until he's a bit older?