New date and much panic

[KristiinSD]

I have a new date. I will have a mitral valve job on the 29th, but be admitted after a cath on the 28th. I'm not wild about the cath, but I am hoping I can just be out for it since I won't be going anywhere.

My husband informed me at soccer today that we would be going to court on Wednesday to finalize our divorce and have a judge divide our assets since we are unable to do so. I really felt upset, since I thought that this date was post-poned. I think that contributed to me feeling sick after walking up a hill this afternoon. I was dizzy, light-headed, and somewhat nauseasous (sp?) after walking up a hill. I guess every little symptom is going to bug me until the 28th.

I just can't wait for ALL of this to be behind me. I love to hear the reports of people like Big Chuck and Mitral man who are on the other side. I'm excited to feel healthy again.

Kristi
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surgery 9/29/05

 

[Phyllis]

Hi Kristi,
I put you on the calendar for the 29th. I feel so badly that you are going through a divorce at this stressful and important time in your life and I hope that you have a good support system to carry you through. Dick had his catherization the day before surgery too and it worked out well. He was admitted that day and had the surgery the following morning. I wish for you the same results- clean arteries, a successful surgery and an uneventful recovery. Please know that we are all here for you and best wishes,
Phyllis

 

[Phyllis]

oops- you beat me to the calendar- glad you were able to post it!

 

[geebee]

Kristi,

Best of luck to you. You are so strong to be facing all that is going on in your life. I am sure you will do fine. Looking forward to your post-surgery posting.

 

[Karlynn]

Kristi,
I'm so sorry that you have to deal with 2 such big, upsetting events at the same time.

Trying not to sound too much like a Pollyanna, but try to think of both as the beginning of a new, refreshed, healthy life. You are getting your heart fixed and physically, once you are recovered, you will feel so much better. Don't let anyone else, and anything they do, take that new lease on life away from you.

Don't hesitate to vent here and don't hesitate to rely on those who love you.

Best wishes.

 

[LLJ]

Hey Kristi: went through the exact thing you are. Found out about the same 2 big events within 2 months of each other. I told my friends everyone going through a divorce should have open heart surgery: for me it put really important things into perspective. My kids, MY health, MY future. I was lucky in a funny way because my soon to be ex rose to the occassion and did a spectacular job stepping in and helping take care of everything. It helped us make it through a painful event. Now I REALLY have a brand new heart, in many ways. Bad things can make you stronger because you CHOSE to survive them with dignity,grace and a very strong desire to make your own future better. It ain't easy,but you can do it. Let friends and family help. And of course VR.com is always a mouse click away.
Laura

 

[PJmomrunner]

Honey, you gotta just toss that man right outta your life! You are just too good for him and will be better off without him! He's doin' you a favor--let someone who doesn't care about the assets divide 'em up. Move on to thinking about getting your body fixed and starting the next wonderful chapter in your life!

 

[hensylee]

I love what Laura said. She is very wise. You WILL get through this, I promise.

Talk to us if you need/want to. We are right here 24/7.

 

[Ross]

And of course VR.com is always a mouse click away.
Laura

Well sometimes two!

 

[bvdr]

I love what Laura said. She is very wise. You WILL get through this, I promise.

Talk to us if you need/want to. We are right here 24/7.

Ann, I thought the exact same thing reading Laura's post.

Kristi, I hardly think it could have been said better. I want you to know that there is a whole lot of people out here thinking about you and keeping you in our prayers.

 

[Mama2Rylan]

Im sorry that you have to go through everything all at once...but try and look on the bright side...the divorce will be over and soon after that, so will your surgery. That will give you more time to focus on yourself and what is best for you!! GOOD LUCK with everything...we are all here for you!!

 

[Dennis S]

My suggestion

My suggestion

I don't know your personal beliefs, but here is a short prayer that helps me. "Lord, place me so close to you that (fill in the blank) is far away." I pray it might help you as it has me.

 

[JohnnyV_46]

What crappy timing? The Divorce and surgery and all. I had my Cath the day before my Surgery. I didn't know I needed the Surgery until they did the cath. It really wasn't all that bad. I got to watch alot of it. I could tell things were not good tho by the way they were not saying much. I ended up with Triple arterial bypass, AVR and Aortic anneurysm repair....The cath was a piece of cake...Laying still for 4 hours afterwards sucked tho....It'll be over before you know it.

Best of Luck
JohnnyV