My age 91 year old daddy

[Glenda]

Bonnie, I have missed your posts. I thought you might be traveling again. You were but not the in the way I thought. Your dad will most certainly be at the top of my prayers list. Hugs and prayers are coming your way too.

 

[Blanche]

Bonnie:
I was going to inqire to Ross today about you. I missed you and worried. Please know that our thoughts and well wishes are with you. Some problems and difficulties are more troublesome than others. Please be good to yourself and you move through this stress.
Warm Regards,
Blanche and Al

 

[Granbonny]

Thanks to all of you

Thanks to all of you

After a day of rest yesterday..I felt better today...Mind clear..and I'm sure my sister and I did the right thing putting him in Nursing home for rehab...We get the free 100 days..of medicare...as long as Daddy will try to get up and do rehab everyday.Which I'm sure he will do..He was just upet that we were leaving him due to the fact..that he cannot see well. They will bring breakfast and supper.. to his room..but must go down to eat lunch in dining room..He was afraid that he would spill his milk, ect. not being able to see up close.but, sister had arranged (met) another age 91 year old male patient that assured her..he would help him. ..We had hand-fed him in hospital..but, knew, we had to let go...and let him learn on his own.The staff is very aware of his bad sight. and will turn T.V., ect. on for him.....When he lived alone..we had wonderful neighbors that did a lot for him..but, they have a contract on their home to move..Daddy had lived in his home for 30 years and knew where everything was..he even cooked, washed his clothes, ect. and made a MESS.That is why I went every 2 months to clean kitchen, bathroom, ect. Brother took him for groceries, haircuts, ect.weekly...We thought he may make it for another year..but, I think he got sick the day he mowed his yard ( 3 hours) and came into a/C house and got chilled.......I wanted to wait until tomorrow to call brother to see how Daddy is making out.....No news is good news. We (family) are mailing cards everyday..so the Social Director will go into room and read cards from us..when he gets better..we will have a telephone put in room. next to his recliner.....He was hoarse from coughing so much..so didn't want to have him talking. We went thru this with Hubby's parents. Assisted living, M/I/l died 1 year later and F/I/L 1 day short of 1 year after she died..MANY trips that year..almost everyday driving over..an hour from here.. My Mama died 4 years ago this 26th...(only a week in hospital)........Retirement is suppose to be fun..but, remember if your parents are living..that you will have to provide the best care for them.....I'm sure our children will do the same for us....Bonnie

 

[Jan]

Hugs and Prayers

Hugs and Prayers

Hi Bonnie

Prayers and hugs to you, your daddy and your family,

keep strong my friend

Love

Jan

 

[hensylee]

Bonnie, where Richard lives there are two who are legally blind. The staff is wonderful in helping them. Wendell wanted to eat alone at his table and they let him. He knew he spilled and he felt he'd bump other people's plates or glass so he was more comfortable that way. Mrs I sits with others at a table for four, and has sat at that same chair for years. The residents always sit at the same place, so if this is the case where your dad is, he will find his spot and someone will keep an eye out to help him. It takes time for adjustment but he should do ok. Acceptance is the hard part. They always want to go home and that's hard for you to handle. You didn't say if he's in the same area where he lived, but if he is, perhaps his friends might drop by to visit. PT will also be helpful for him when he is able. It will keep him busy for awhile. The home probably has a schedule for activities. There's something going on at Richard's place every day.

 

[Granbonny]

Ann

Ann

We are lucky..Daddy is only 2 miles away from his home.And found out that Nurse's hubby worked with him years ago on railroad..Now, he is the maintance person.at Nursiing home and could have hooked his cable up. free..without our running around. ..He came into Daddy's room..but, remember..Daddy was in Hospital for 8 days.. on drugs..and just out of it..when admitted to Nursing home ..This is a man that has never been in hospital..so, hopefully..when the drugs wear off..he will be the same man. An age 91 year old that took care of his self with NO drugs.. that is why My sister and I had to stay 24 hours with him..He was so out of it.I hate hospitals....Every 3 hours to wake him for b/p, ect.. and very rude PCT's...even when we told them NOT to wake him....and they woke us up too. So stupid when his vital signs were good. Will give yall an update later..Bonnie

 

[gijanet]

Just sending..........

Just sending..........

our prayers and many hugs. It sounds like you have done as much as you possibly can to make sure that your dad is well-taken care of and doesn't feel too disoriented and alone. It's still hard, though. As I am the sole surviving child, I dread the day that I have to deal with this. Much love. J.