My age 91 year old daddy

[Granbonny]

I drove to Alabama on Oct. 4,5,6th....noticed he was not the same...He had pushed mowed the grass that a.m.....thought he had just overdid himself..Stayed and came home on thursday. Called everyday and finally called my brother on Sunday the 9th..Brother took him to ER...where he was admitted.My sister and I left at 3 P.M I DROVE thru Atlanta and all the way..arriving at 10 P.m...where he spent 8 days in hospital..First 3 days he was going down hill with all kinds of things..CHF, ect...but came back and we admitted him to Rehab in local Nursing Home....Sister and I left today. After 8 days of NO sleep..stayed around the clock with him in hospital..and 3 days setting him up in Nursing Home..We are exhausted..He still has a bad cough..no fever, vital signs good., ect. Brother lives in same town.....He thinks he will be going home in 3 weeks..but, we have arranged for assisted living home.No way, he can ever go home alone again.Just ..too weak and too blind.Bless, Ann (hensylee)she found me on my Mobile phone one night when I was in hospital.I have had no chance to look over VR.Com..forums but hope all is well. I will ask for prayers for Daddy..that he can regain his strenght thru PT..and will be able to leave nursing home...If not, afraid he will go down fast. We only have my brother and 1 first cousin who is a retired nurse that will keep us informed (same town)...Bonnie

 

[geebee]

Your family is in my prayers. I hope things get better.

 

[Karen]

moms and dads

moms and dads

Bonnie, my 93-year-old mom passed away one year ago on the 17th of October. She had a heart attack two days earlier. Up until then, she was still on her own and enjoying relatively good health. She had gone sky diving 2 months earlier on her birthday -- one of those tandem jumps. In fact, we had airline tickets to take her to New York the last week of October to be a guest audience member on the Tony Danza Show. So it was NOT expected -- she had been told all her life that she had a very strong heart. They didn't realize it was her heart even when she was admitted to the hospital. Only a couple of hours before she died, did they really pinpoint it to her heart. But I have thought many times over the past year that there was not a better way to leave this life. We had begun to worry about her driving and so many other issues. But she was fiercely independent and it would have been most difficult for her to give up her car and to leave her home.

I've decided these later years when we have so many decisions and worries about aging and ailing parents are some of the most difficult of all. It's hard not to worry about them and it takes so much thoughtful planning and care to do what needs to be done -- especially when they don't want to leave their homes.

Best wishes to you and your family as you care for your dad....
Karen

 

[Karlynn]

Will keep your Daddy in my prayers.

 

[Ross]

I haven't stopped since I heard. Keep in touch.

 

[Nancy]

Oh Bonnie-

I was thinking yesterday that I haven't seen you around for a while. I thought perhaps you were having a nice RV trip.

I am so sorry about your daddy. Your love for him shines through whenever you mention him.

I will keep my prayers coming. God Bless.

 

[tobagotwo]

Your family and you will be in my thoughts, Bonnie.

Very best wishes,

 

[Harrybaby666]

Bonnie....

Bonnie....

You have all the best prayers that I can possibly put forth for you, your family and your daddy, and I hope and pray that you are going to get some rest for yourself and let the man upstairs see things through. Please know your in my thoughts, prayers and heart. Harrybaby

 

[Mary]

Bonnie,
Your daddy and all your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[hensylee]

thanks for the update, Bonnie. I hope he continues to improve. I know you have had a hard week so I won't bother you yet. Blessins.....

 

[Cris N]

So sorry to hear of your troubles. I will keep you, your family, and your daddy in my prayers.

Cris

 

[azpam]

most assisted living places are real nice and you have to know that you are having his best interest at heart. i know that he has prided himself to live alone as long as he has.but sounds like the assisted living is the way to go for him from now on to keep him safe. let him know that a happy quality of life can still happen.

 

[Phyllis]

Dear Bonnie,
I know what you are going through and send you our best wishes. Dick's Dad is 101 and still lives on his own in his house when in truth he should be in assisted living. We finally got him to give up his driver's license two years ago, but he is one stubborn dude. He presently has what I know is a basal cell on his ear and we spent a good deal of time this evening trying to convince him to see the dermatologist- to no avail I am sorry that your Dad is having problems, but glad for you that you seem to have the situation in hand and he will get the care that he needs. Sending you our prayers.
Phyllis

 

[Superbob]

Bonnie,

Have missed you on the forums. My prayers go to your Daddy and to you for continued strength as you take care of him.

Best wishes,

Bob

 

[Guest]

Bonnie,

Thoughts/prayers coming your way....


My Dad's Dad swore up'n'down he would never go into a "nursing home" ... and, sure enough, the day before they were move him into one (for his own good), he died.

On the other hand, my Mom's parents made the conscious decision to move into an assisted living facility an hour or so from here. That was in September 2001 ... they moved September 5 ... 6 days before 9/11. Gram made it a year there (died October 2002) ... Gramps, on the other hand, is still alive and well ... and thoroughly enjoying himself from what it seems. I just never get a chance to get out to see him as much as I'd like .


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[Yaps]

Many prayers to you and yours,I know when my Mom was sick..I was nearly crazed trying to help...love the pup

 

[terryj]

Bonnie,you and and your daddy are in my prayers. My mom is only 75 and still lives alone, but I am an only child and know I will be the one totally responsible for her well being at one point. A few weeks ago someone tried to break into her apartment and she had to call 911. I tried to get her to move in with us or to let us get her one of those alert necklaces. She informed us she was not scared and too young for an alert necklace. My husband went over and put better locks on her door and I try to check on her a lot more. I don't know what else to do.

 

[catwoman]

Bonnie:

Your dad and your family are in my prayers. Sounds like he is a very determined man, to be push-mowing his yard at his age!

 

[Christina L]

Bonnie,

Bonnie,

You and your father and entire family are in my thoughts and prayers. I hope you will get to experience a "long good-bye" with your father. My father went suddenly at 63 of a heart attack and my mother died 16 months after being diagnosed with Stage IV breast cancer - I don't know which way to "go" is better - even though we had plenty of time to say good-bye to Mom we never really talked about those things. We were told to not leave things unsaid, but Mom didn't want to talk about her death and that was her choice.

Reminisce with your dad - talk about the old days and talk about Heaven with him. This life isn't all there is - there is something wonderful on the other side waiting for all of us.

P.S. Assisted living facilities or nursing homes can be wonderful places for our older population. You just have to make sure you do your homework on choosing the right facility.

God bless -

Christina L.

 

[EVELYN]

Hi Bon

You and your family will, of course, be in my prayers. I know you're going through a rough time right now.......You're right about home....no more for him. You just can't take that chance, girl......

Please keep us posted.

Ev