Long time reader, first time poster

[donnamarie]

I would like to thank you all for your kind words. I have seen how this community rallies around their 'own', but to experience it first hand is still overwhelming!

My surgery has been moved up one day to Thursday the 25th. That was a bit exasperating, as it seems as though I have so much to do as it is, but whatever it takes to make the surgery go smoother is fine with me.

It seems the first few weeks after surgery will be as I feared, but both my wife and I understand how important rest is to not only a full recovery, but a successful one. I just need to pound that fact into my stubborn head to just rest, as I can be very resistant to rest when it seems I can be helping. My poor son is also too young and will not understand why dad cannot toss him around like an airplane anymore.

My wife plans on taking a few days off to accompany me at home when I get back from the hospital, but I will be home by myself for the bulk of my recovery at home during the daylight hours. Let's hope I don't go stir crazy!

Again, thank you all for your responses. It is helping ease my anxiety.

I agree with you that this is a great place to be while waiting for surgery! My surgery is a few days before yours, so we'll be recuperating together. My husband and one of my sons will be home for about a week, then I'll be on my own too. We can compare notes! Instead of a 16 month old, I have a 16 year old - I won't have to pick him up, but he's not very good at picking up after himself. Gotta work on that! Kids are pretty resilient - he'll figure out that daddy isn't quite himself - and before you know it, you will be your old self and he'll forget all about it! My 16yo was 8 months when I had breast cancer - surgery & chemo - he doesn't remember a thing! LOL
Good luck! I have my bible study class tonight - last one before surgery, so I'll ask for prayers for everyone on our site - those preparing for surgery, those recuperating from surgery, and for the care givers!