Long time, no posting

[Gail in Ca]

Hi All,
I realized by looking at my posts that i haven't been on the site for years. I had posted April 11,2014, and then my world changed.
My husband told me the next morning, on April 12th, that he was leaving me, and he said I had changed since my last open heart surgery!
He gave more reasons, and then left. We had been married one month shy of 32 years. It was totally unexpected and I just didn't have the energy
to go to the site for a very long time. I found out that he was actually cheating, and so had just come up with a list of things to tell me why he was leaving.
It was scary for me at first. I had a cardio version scheduled for that May, and did it, but received an email from his attorney that same day, and my
a-fib came back immediately while I read the email.
I never expected my life to change like it has. But, even though I still have heart issues, I try to make my days good ones.

 

[pellicle]

Hi Gail

glad to hear that you're physically well (I was a little worried you may have had complications from that wound).

Sorry to hear of your bad news, I hope you find your way clear of all that. Keep in mind that its not about you so don't blame yourself.

Best Wishes

 

[Gordo60]

So sorry to hear what you’ve been through. A very rough journey indeed. Hope that better times lay ahead.

 

[sylviayasgur]

Welcome back, Gail. so sorry to hear of your difficulties. Hope things get better and easier for you.
Be well.

 

[Duffey]

Hi Gail, so sorry to read the cause of your absence. Wishing you all the best and remember, you’re among friends here. Mary

 

[ottagal]

Nice to see you back and posting, however I am very sorry to hear what you have gone through. I am hoping that you find some happiness moving forward and that good things come your way.

 

[tom in MO]

Nice to see you back Gail. Sorry your husband was such a jerk. I like this from Othello:

To mourn a mischief that is past and gone
Is the next way to draw new mischief on.
What cannot be preserved when fortune takes
Patience her injury a mockery makes.
The robb'd that smiles steals something from the thief; He robs himself that spends a bootless grief.

 

[Eva]

Hi Gail, good to see you back yet sad to know the reasons you stayed away. What a selfish person your husband proved to be. His selfishness must have drained you without realizing it! Life should bring you better luck and love and hope you feel better.
Best.

 

[Bina]

OH Lordy, life can throw some sucker punches when least expected. Welcome back, and we have your back.

 

[Debster]

So sorry Gail...welcome back!

 

[honeybunny]

He put some really bad karma out there and will likely live to regret it. The older I get, the more often I see people reaping what they have sown. So sorry you went through all that.

 

[Agian]

Narcissists get theirs as they age HB. It's almost inevitable. They end up angry and hateful, when people stop buying their ********.

 

[carolinemc]

Gail, he was a pig and used your surgery and recovery as an excuse for what he probably been doing for months or years. He just used you and dumped you. You are better off without that male mess. I know you are a better person now and stronger without that thing. You are a strong person and you are better than that thing. And you had to take some time to deal with that male mess. I am glad you took the time to deal and move on. You come in here anytime, we are all here for you. Strong woman, hear her roar. You are truly blessed with us here for you. Hugs for today.

 

[EasterRat]

People sure are strange with the change blame game, hope you are healing from all the wounds! Keep hanging in, something fab could be lurking!