Hi Sherry,
I feel your pain. Last year I got in a pissing contest with my OB/GYN over the whole BC thing. She wanted to take me off the pill, citing my risk of stroke was too great, since I not only had a valve repair, but had visual migraines, as well. She had ruled out an IUD because of infection risk (but that might just be b'casue of my endocarditis). My OB/GYN was a big proponent of Depo, instead.
At that time, I did a bunch of research on risk of stroke while on BC, as compared to various odds of dying. Below is the result. Basically, your risk of stroke while on the pill is 1-in-25,000 - right after your odds of dying in a plane crash (1-in-20,000), and right before your odds of dying in a flood (1-in-25,000). Puts it in perspective, no?
At the end of our little contest, after I got a second opinion, they agreed to put me on the "mini-pill" (I wanted SOME estrogen and wasn't content with a progestin only pill), and told me to be vewy, vewy careful.
The odds are below. The data on BC/stroke came from reputable medical journals such as JAMA.
Cause of Death Lifetime Odds
Heart Disease 1-in-5
Cancer 1-in-7
Stroke 1-in-23
Accidental Injury 1-in-36
Motor Vehicle Accident* 1-in-100
Intentional Self-harm (suicide) 1-in-121
Falling Down 1-in-246
Assault by Firearm 1-in-325
Risk of Contracting PID 1-in-617
Fire or Smoke 1-in-1,116
Risk of Contracting PID on BCP 1-in-2000
Natural Forces (heat, cold, storms, quakes, etc.) 1-in-3,357
Electrocution* 1-in-5,000
Risk of Ovarian Cancer 1-in-5587
Drowning 1-in-8,942
Risk of Ovarian Cancer on BCP 1-in-14204
Stroke from migraine BCP 1 in 14,285
Air Travel Accident* 1-in-20,000
Stroke from BCP 1 in 25,000
Flood* (included also in Natural Forces above) 1-in-30,000
Legal Execution 1-in-58,618
Tornado* (included also in Natural Forces above) 1-in-60,000
Lightning Strike (included also in Natural Forces above) 1-in-83,930
Snake, Bee or other Venomous Bite or Sting* 1-in-100,000
Earthquake (included also in Natural Forces above) 1-in-131,890
Dog Attack 1-in-147,717
Asteroid Impact* 1-in-200,000**
Tsunami* 1-in-500,000
Fireworks Discharge 1-in-615,488