Hi
Nocturne;n869228 said:
.... Suddenly national education politics seems like a really really abstract thing to be worried about.
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Personal health issues really do tend to refocus the mind on what is actually important, and that sure isn't national educational policy.
In truth society gets on along fine without us no matter now significant a part we think we play in it.
We all get dealt ****** hands now and then, but the key point is to keep playing and not fold.
I got stenosis at about 6 and was operated on at about 10, I missed early adulthood and missed so much important development in my teens that I was robbed. I will never ever have the strength and fitness of any of my relatives who had the luxury of building when I had my first OHS, so I find your argument of "bizarrely early age" to be cloaked in misunderstanding and ignorance.
Agian mentioned to me recently a girl who had had 6 OHS by 28 ... think about what she was robbed of.
Yes it's crappy when it happens to you, but you know what? Most of us here have had it happen to them.
Of course it's easier to not get it when it's someone else's loss or suffering. I feel strongly you don't get it when we reach out to you with our situations. It's as if you focus on how horrible it is for you but discount how we may have felt. "Of course you guys had a hard time, but not as much as me" seems to be your unstated premise.
Many times here over your posts people have reached out to you to offer the view that you should look to the positives that continue to exist for you. Just now someone offered to help you find work in a new area that may be less stressful. That's perhaps more tangible than anything I've ever written to you about attitude.
I skipped starting a family and went to being a widower with a complex and touchy heart problem that is beyond the comprehension of many professional in one year too. I lost my only life goal and skipped straight to being too old to restart and too young to die quietly in a retirement village. My life went from ******* perfect to perfectly ****** in one night and then proceed to get worse with the coming months of infections and debridement surgeries. The physical signs of the strain were that lost a lot of hair and my beard greyed in a year.
My response has to that over the last four years has been to recover my resolve (still ongoing) and push on with what I can get out of life. Not focus on what I lost.
If you try that too you will find warm help and support here.
I do think however that I see a break in your clouds and you seem to be passing from the bleak to something more akin to anger. To me that's a good sign.
Myself I know I am not always in the best frame of mind to cope with some psychologies some times, but I will always be there for those who seek answers and inputs. Perhaps I don't come across as understanding, but I do try to offer help (even if it's not sugar Coates much)