Hi
normally you don't ... hence the name "silent killer" often ascribed to it. Its just like the garden hose starting to swell at the tap connection , you don't notice anything at the hose end but one day suddenly it pops off and you have no water at your end ...
I'm not entirely sure how to intrepret this as its a bit open and almost theatric. Yes its true, but there are many things which are true that can distort what the situation really is. For instance if I take a sip out of my glass "there is never as much in it anymore"; and yet 90% of the glass is remaining AND I feel refreshed.
This strikes me as something written by someone who has a negative view. I have a friend who's mother passed away perhaps one or two years back. Her mother was always whinging about her heart surgery. Complained regularly to her kids; that they had pushed her into it, that she had no quality if life anymore (she simply sat around after surgery and did nothing about recovery), that she was unable to do things (which she could if she'd got off her arse). Essentially the valve gave her another 4 years of life, but it could have given her another 15 if she'd put her own effort into it.
Myself I had my first OHS at 10 years old, so I have but the haziest of memories of pre-surgery. However growing up as a teenager I rode motorcross bikes, hiked some of the most fabulous terrain in this part of the world (see
here and
here), traveled, and lived perhaps one of the most full lives anyone I know has lived.
I achieved that because "nothing was the same again" ... to which I view as only a positive thing.
I have never once felt different or lesser in doing things because of my surgeries, only better and stronger (and not dead).
True for one with an aneurysm the apparent benefits that a valve surgery gives are not there (you don't "feel" better), but you do get to not fall down dead suddenly (probably at an inconvenient time.
Look towards the positves and I'm sure it will only be a beneficial and positive thing.
Besides, having a few scars on the body before it gets dumped is not going to damage its resale value ... those old models don't fetch much on eBay anymore ;-)