Hi Sandydee,
Several have made some good comments to you, and I would like to add some thoughts on this topic as well.
First, as Philip mentioned, everyone is different, and consulting the doctor is always best. People on this site all have different conditions. Some only had Valve replacement, others have had aneurysms and dissections and also had their valve replaced, and still others have various forms of heart disease possibly combined with any of the other conditions mentioned. In each case, treatment and future incident avoidence could be unique to the person and condition.
When I first read your post the mention of "graft" raised a redflag with me. Bob H mentioned that this usually indicates an aneurysm or dissection condition. I also think this could be true.
Im my case, I was a dedicated weight lifter, and worked out 5 days a week for well over 14 years. My health was great... there were no existing conditions that would have indicated I had a problem. As it turns out, I had an emergency ascending aortic dissection, and my aorta tore from my aortic valve all the way down and then onto my left kneecap. They gave me a 3 to 6% chance of surviving the emergency surgery.
My heart surgeon, my vascular surgeon and my cardiologist all told me to stop heavy lifting and not to lift anymore than 50 lbs at any given time. They advised doing high reps with lighter weights if was to continue working out.
That was almost 10 years ago, ohh any by the way, I was almost 50 when this occurred. I still work out, and stay cut and toned, but I have lost some body mass. But hey... I am still here in this world. I am too old to compete, and pushing the limits on this hobby would only jepordize my health and life.
During this time, I have since developed A-fib, and my heart goes out of rhythm from time to time. Since I am already on coumidin, for my heart valve, this medication also helps reduce the risk of a stroke when my heart does go out of rhythm. Is your son on any kind of any kind of anticouagulant? You note mentioned that he was on a Beta Blocker, metoprolol, but if he is also in and out of rhythm, perhaps he needs to consult his doctor about this and ask him about some stoke prevention medication.
You son is 47, and it would seem that his doctors must have provided him with some advice regarding his condition. Does he talk about this with you? Would it be possible for you to accompany him to the doctor during his next checkup? You could then discuss this issue with him present.
I have my "story" posted on this site, perhaps it may help if he reads it.
Hope you can talk with him and get a clearer understanding of his condition and actions. Perhaps he is doing exactly what the doctors advised.
Rob