Hi!
I think Nancy said it all. My husband also goes through periods of grouchiness. I think the reasons are pretty clear. He is no longer able to do what he could before. He still has heart disease. He takes lots of chemicals, twice a day. All new to him.
I try to excercise the greatest amount of patience with him. I also try to plan doing things that he can do. For example during the week, I might have someone over to dinner. At least once, Monday through Thursday. On the weekends, I plan having company, taking a day trip......or something. Boredom causes depression, and I try to make sure he does not get bored. I really try do do things together with him that we have not done before.....life offers so much. A museum trip, going to a Park we have never been to.......that kind of thing. Maybe even a restaurant we haven';t been to before. There are so many events.....Farmers Markets, etc. etc. etc. I try to keep boredom outside of the house. This really does help. Plus it adds some really good memories. And, truthfully, some funny ones.
He no longer can work, so having things to look forward to can be fun. Just as he tries to stay within the boundaries of what he can do to feel okay, I try to plan things that we can do together.
I have read articles that say that depression is a killer for heart disease.....and I know when he is getting a bit cranky, that depression is at the door. I hope it helps to know that you are not alone. It happens to most of us.
Best wishes., - Marybeth