Janice :
Janice :
I had a bicuspid Aortic valve (BAV); had a murmur for many years, progressed to stenosis and was replaced with mechanical valve almost 6 months ago.
I have an idea how you feel as a mother - I am 52 years old, and when I told my mother that my cardio said it was time for surgery, she insisted we go to my next appointment together - she'll always be a mother ! Of all the people I know (including my husband) she is the one who took it the hardest, I think - her words to me at on e point were "this shouldn't be happening to my KID, my friends, maybe, but not my KID " !!!!
I appreciated her support, and that of my father, too. They also acknowledged that my husband and I came first for each other, especially at that time, and hung around in the background so he could be the first to see me in ICU and so on. The day they brought me home, they saw me into the house and left us to sort ourselves out as far as who was sleeping where and so on - but we both knew they were only a phone call away if we needed them.
So, Janice, from the other side of the coin, I am sure your son appreciates your concern and support, but he may also need some time to accept this. He will need your continued support, calm acceptance and the knowledge that you are there for him for quite some time yet. I am sure you will both make it through this, and good luck in finding a doctor/surgeon and facility that you both like.