Don't go there...............
Don't go there...............
Trust me! It's not a place you want to visit............I spent many sleepless nights wondering what I had done to cause Katie's defects........was it going to the M-16 range when I was five months pregnant (and, of course, it wasn't, as the heart begins forming around the 4th week of pregnancy)...........was it the stress from going to graduate school, teaching full time and serving in the National Guard all at the same time....................was it the antibiotics I took for a sinus infection before I even knew I was pregnant.......................and the what if's..........................just don't go there! It's not worth it and you won't get anything resolved.
This question/issue comes up very frequently on the CHD lists. There are some families (in the minority) that have more than one child with a congenital heart defect, but they are definitely in the minority. Lyn could probably quote you the latest stats on the percentage of having another child with a CHD if you already have one. I have to confess I didn't pay much attention as I do not plan on having any more children..................course I said that after my son was born....................

haha! He is heart healthy, by the way................just brain damaged as all teenagers are............

Anyway, it's a small percentage and stats are just that..............just stats. We learned to disregard those a long time ago. If I had paid attention to stats quoted to us our first year into the CHD game, we would have buried Katie three years ago. I don't think she'd appreciate being buried alive!!! She's living proof that stats don't mean diddly squat! I wish with all MY heart that Katie did not have the heart anomalies that she has, but if I had to choose between not having her and having her with all of her heart defects, I would choose to have her. She is a joy. She is very active and full of life and thoroughly enjoys life, despite all that she has been through.
Do not let the fear of having another child with a BAV keep you from having another child should you truly desire one.
Abort the guilt trip right now. Hope you have travel insurance. Hugs. J.