Dear Paleowoman,
I gave up posting on this forum as I prefer a moderated forum, but I have looked in from time to time and see it is moderated now ( of course there was never any problem with your posts , paleowoman!) and I felt I really had to respond to your post, partly to say how sorry I am about your valve size problems, and also to say what an excellent hospital the Brompton is. It was recommended to us when we were at HUP in Philadelphia as quite a few of HUP's doctors had done extra training there (I don't think American forum members always realise there are world-class hospitals elsewhere!) and my husband was treated there for 10 years and we have very fond memories of it. Sometimes I wasn't happy with their decisions at the time, but I recognised later that they were correct, and I had a lot of respect for their judgement.
I have a small annulus too (21mm - I knew it in advance as I had a TOE), and a BSA of 1.58. As you probably know, patient prosthesis mismatch is figured on the basis of indexed EOA to BSA. I don't know what your BSA is, but I remember you didn't weigh much so to be fair to your previous surgeon you may well have seemed ok for a 19mm valve - you can check as the valve charts and BSA calculators are on the web. However these charts don't take into account desired exercise capacity, and I would imagine that you would need a considerably bigger valve to do your exceptionally heavy weight- lifting - did she know the actual weights you lifted and that it was super slow? I think it's important always to be really specific to cardiologists and surgeons- they do need all the information we can give them. It's curious that your echo technician before surgery asked if you did weightlifting, which is rather a strange question if you didn't have any hypertrophy before surgery, since weightlifting is associated with hypertrophy. Does the echo report give your numbers or just leave it blank? Is it possible that you had some hypertrophy but he thought it was just 'athlete's heart'?
I myself chose a Ross (excoriated I know by some on this forum!) despite the '2-valve problem', as it has the best haemodynamics of any valve ( as well as very good survival and quality of life) and that was what was most important to me - I had hypertrophy from the stenosis, which normalised later after surgery. I also really didn't want to be on warfarin (my husband had been on it for 14 years and I know the risks all too personally!) nor like you did I want to tick, and I wasn't nervous of cardiac surgery. But of course everybody is different in what's most important to them: for many people avoiding further surgery is their absolute priority, and the Ross will always be a niche choice. In fact I would have gone to the Brompton for a Ross if I hadn't had an excellent Ross surgeon in my own hospital, as they are experienced in both Ross and homografts and have a homograft bank. But more relevant to your own situation is that my back-up if my pulmonary valve wasn't suitable for a Ross was a root enlargement and bioprosthetic valve ( perimount magna or trifecta) and my surgeon was confident he could enlarge enough for a 25 mm, so you should be able to have at least a 23mm, which would also mean you could have a future TAVI. Interestingly Toronto hospital, with another outstanding valve department , has a minimum of 23 mm for women and 25 mm for men, unless they are very elderly and sedentary.
I hope the TOE goes well, and gives helpful information.