You are right...I think it's lawyer time

[Lulabelle1]

You are right...I think it's lawyer time

Hi .
I posted a couple days ago , about if memory loss can continue. I thank you all for your answers & advise, but no one really said if it really can or not. I had memory problems right after surgery...math, driving car (suddenly didn't know what lane to be in).....& just things in general. It seems to be escalating and gaining momentum since the ear incidence...my comprehension is getting worse. Could this still be from the heart pump....or the ear thing....or both?
Then today, my boss wanted us to try a different approach to the tried & proved method we use to do our color matching....as usual, he spoke directly to my co-worker (even though I'm Senior in the dept)...when I expressed some of my thoughts on the subject...he turns to me and states
(Loud & nearly yelling) "You're NOT Listening!!!" my response was "No, I can't hear!!!"
I think it's moving towards harrassment.....every chance he gets he rubs my recent disabilities in my face.....my mind not as sharp, my resilience has failed....i forgot to mention he calls me "The Queen "B".....he won't elaborate as to what the "B: stands for...i can only assume it is not "beautiful". After the remark again today....I am fairly assured that I am in deep do-do on the bye-bye list.
My husband was furious about it tonight...and said we needed to go to a lawyer and get it over with.
I did as you said and visited the "Americans with disabilities act "...but found no specific list to print out for fire power . I don't really think it protects me from what I read ( it was vague & broad). If someone knows where to look, I appreciate it if you'd just email it to me, if you had time.
I also thought that one's doctor had to suggest disability....that has never been mentioned to me. I thought if you could walk & talk....you weren't considered disabled unless your health was so bad it wouldn't permit you to do so. How do I go about finding out if I'm eligible, or even a cadidate? Do I dare just ask the cardio such a question?
Sorry to keep bugging you about this, but I'm really losing sleep over it. I know my health is not what it was, nor am I. I realise I am not the happy camper I was before all this happened......but i am trying to do my best.....and there isn't much more left.
Thanks in advance. Lulabelle1

 

[Nancy]

Lulabelle-

Once you get a disability lawyer, they should help you with all the parameters of getting disability. It is very difficult and takes about 2 years. People who do not "look" sick have a particularly hard time. My husband applied many years ago and qualified in every way, but his appearance was not sickly. He did have a disability attorney, but to tell you the truth, I prepared his case for him, and that was the reason he got it. Once all the data was presented, they checked with all of his specialists who verified everything.

His attorney used an outside resource to do the information gathering for the case, and they were absolutely terrible. The nurse that came to interview my husband didn't have a clue about the medical problems Joe has, and also didn't have most of the vital information. Whatever they were paid, it was WAY too much. Fortunately, I have an extremely good memory and I remembered everything that had happened and could document it day by day.

Once Joe qualified for disability, everything was retroactive which was nice.

So do some of your own homework. Even with some memory problems, you might be able to remember most of what has happened to you. Just start writing a journal and put things down every day as you remember them. That way you can bring this to your attorney and someone in his/her office can put it into the proper order.

So knowing that there is a long waiting time, now would be a good opportunity to get started.

Wishing you luck.

 

[LUVMyBirman]

Hi Lula,

Check this website out. I beleive you will find some answers. Don't sell yourself short......the "power of sugesstion" can be a very 'powerful'. Sounds like your boss is not aiding to your recovery but hindering.

Before you file for disibilty....you might want to think about reporting this behovior to the EEOC.I am not sure when your surgery was.......but it takes time to recover mentally. If your boss is playing on that to look for an excuse to fire you, well I am afraid he could find himself in a heap of trouble.

Take care.....and please keep us posted.


http://www.eeoc.gov/

 

[Marge]

Lulubelle ... Are you talking about applying to get social security disability? Or about using the Americans with Disabilities Act to protect your job? The ADA is tricky: it requires an employer to make a "reasonable accommodation" to enable a qualified employee to continue to do his or her job -- but only if it would not impose an "undue hardship" on the operation of the employer's business. It's a balancing act and each case is specific to its own circumstances. You need an attorney who has considerable experience doing these types of cases, if that's the path you want to pursue.

 

[Karlynn]

Nancy is right - don't just get any lawyer, get a disabilities lawyer. And I agree with Gina - your boss's actions might be actionable, so I'd look into that too.

Hang in there.

 

[Mb]

Hello!

Your note IS unclear as to whether you wish to apply for social security disability, or wish to hire someone to help you keep your job.

We did NOT have the experience that Nancy had getting SSI for her husband. My husband applied, and three weeks later the deposit had been made to our checking account, retroactive. Three weeks. I have certainly heard of other people who have been given a hard time about it, and from what I understand, a lot of it depends on what the doctor says on his report to them.
You must be out of work for 6 months.

On the other hand if you wish to keep your job, call a Commision against Discrimination in your area. I really think they can help you.

Marybeth

 

[mamsram]

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Hi,
Just to clear up the queen thing---A beehive has a queen Bee in it and all the other bees live to assure her survival. She is warmed in the winter, cooled in the summer, fed the best honey, and loved (procreation) by the drones---who are kicked out of the hive with the onset of winter.

Sorry to hear the mistreatment you have to put up with. Your boss seems extremely insensitive.

I had a brother-in-law that had a heart situation, and after his hospital stay, seemed o.k. but his boss had tell him(after a 4 mnth try) he was not capable of doing his job. He could not focus on what he was doing, he was forgetful and much slower. Since those employees had a disability plan he was put on it. Meanwhile his company told him to go to a s.s. lawyer and apply for it. They would supply any info the lawyer would need. They also continued to pay him, with the stipulation that when he got on s.s. he would pay it back from his 401k plan. It took 6 mths. for this to go into affect.

God luck

 

[Glenda]

The very same thing happened to me that happened to your brother-in-law. I was diagnosed with three different cancers in two years. My boss made it very hard to work there. It was liked he blamed me for getting the cancers. He put more and more on me (really to get me to quit) that I just couldn't handle it anymore. They did let me have long-term disability and I just qualified last month for Social Security Disability. (probably because of the heart problem) It took me over two years to get this. The long-term disability from my work hired a disability lawyer for me to fight social security and that's what it was, a fight. Here I've worked since I was 16 years old and have paid into social security all that time and you almost have to be dead to get them to pay. It's doesn't seem fair.

Love and God Bless, Glenda

 

[LoraW30]

Lulabelle

I had gotten into a habit of not telling my employers about my health issues. Bad thing to do I know. I did once and it bit me in the butt big time. I was refused a job because of my heart condition. He told me that flat out.

Another employer fired me after piling more and more work on me while I was sick. Of course I couldn't get it all done in the required time.

I couldn't prove anything on either employer so I didn't pursue it.

Good luck on whatever you decide to do.
I hope for the best for you.
Lora