Let me say that I mean no disrespect toward those with tissue valves nor those wanting them. I'm only trying to make you think on this subject harder then you really want too before making your decisions final.
I can't help but post this because Valerie didn't make through her first surgery. People say I scare people when I tell them that they should be making the choice that keeps them from further surgeries if at all possible. I say this to mainly the younger 20-55 year old group because, as you now see, your first surgery may be your one and only. Sure, people will say that statistically, the odds are in your favor for survival. In truth people, your odds on any given heart surgery is 50/50.
For those that are choosing tissue valves at a young age simply to avoid Coumadin or your afraid it'll affect your lifestyle, I ask you, how many times can you cross a 4 lane highway without getting hit? Can you honestly say that risking death multiple times is worth it vs taking pill everyday for the rest of your life in an honest hope that it would be the only surgery you'd have? Nothing is guaranteed no matter what you choose, but I'm having a real hard time getting my head around the fact that so many people people treat heart surgery like a dental cleaning, actually planning for their next surgery, if they're lucky enough to make after this one. Heart surgery is a big deal and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
Human to human, this surgery will affect every organ in your body and they will not put up with multiple abuse. It's not just your heart, but kidneys, lungs, intestines, everything. Talk with those that have had multiple surgeries and find out how many suffer some co-morbidities as a result. Not only that, but the financial stresses (I'm financial ruined and I was once semi well off), stresses on family and loved ones, etc, well, is it worth it?
There will be many people dissing this post. I know that. Some have this,"It won't happen to me" syndrome. To be brutally honest, I've sat back and not said a thing for a long time, all the while, placing more people in the In Loving Memory forum and with each member I put in there, it's killing me. My own surgeries had me facing death and for the most part, I was within an inch of being in that forum myself. I myself, will not make it through a 3rd surgery of this magnitude. My doctors have all said it and I feel it in my gut also. Please listen to someone experienced in the matter.
Since the poster of this thread never made it, I'm posting this, with all do respect to people, because I do care about each and everyone of you. At times, I wish I didn't care about you because then, it wouldn't hurt so much when I lose one of you. For me, it's my duty to present you with the facts that you'd rather not know, but I cannot, in good conscience, sit back and say nothing any longer.
Please understand, I watched this person lose her life, have another knocking on deaths door right now and I'm hurting pretty bad about all of it, plus losing my best friend from complications of heart surgery in September. If you think people don't matter to me, put yourself in my shoes and read my first signature.