bw00
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Hi everyone,
I would like to hear your opinions. I posted once before but I will give a short update. I am a Dutch eighteen-year-old girl that is waiting for an aortic valve replacement. I recently got my test results back and my doctor decided that I will need surgery somewhere in March or April, which was disappointing since I hoped I could wait till summer since that would have been easier with school. I live an active live. I have not had my meeting with the surgeons yet, that will be somewhere in the next two weeks. My problem now is that I have to choose between a mechanical or biological valve, but every doctor seems to advice differently. I was first leaning towards a biological valve more, since you could still get pregnant with that, but then I heard that on younger people they tend to last less then 10 years. I am very passionate about school and about having a successful career so I think I would not want to have children before I turn 30. Saying that a biological valve would last 7 years on me, that would mean that I would need 2 open heart surgery’s before I have any children. Since a biological valve also has trouble with pregnancies that would also mean that after my first pregnancy I would immediately need a new valve as well. Basically that means 3 open heart surgeries all because I could possibly want one child in the future. That seems very stressful to me. If I would have been older it would have been different. But then there is the chance, that it will be possible that at the time I will need another replacement, the minimal invasive surgery is a possibility. Which would mean I would have less open heart surgeries, and then the choice is very different. My doctor says she can not promise anything, but she would not be surprised if within 15 years the minimal invasive surgery would apply on me. Now that makes me confused, because I feel like I am making a choice on something that is not certain. On the other hand I am afraid that I will regret it if I take a mechanical valve, because having children with that is possible but very risky. And after reading the risks, I don’t think I would be willing to risk my life to have a child.
Because of the above I feel like choosing for a mechanical valve more. Yes, I will need to live my life on blood thinners, but it would save me all these extra surgeries. There is always adoption etc. Plus some women do have children with a mechanical valve. With choosing a mechanical valve, I will save myself a life full of surgeries. I will choose for my own health, not for possible children.
I have the opinions of several doctors and they all advise something different, and the more information I find about it, the more complicated the choice seems to get. I am at a point where I just have no idea what to do and I am getting frustrated. Not only that I don’t know which valve to choose, also that I feel like at this point in my life my main concern should be whether to go out at night since I have a lecture or class early in the morning, you know. I feel like I am not able to make this decision at this point in my life, and I am stressing out over it. I don’t know whether I want children and I feel like I am too young and lack some life experience and knowledge to make this decision. Now I would like to hear your opinions. I will not base my decision on your opinions, I am just interested to hear what you have to say! Sorry for the long story, and sorry for any English mistakes. English is not my first language. I wish you all a good day / night!
X Berit ( I hope I posted this in the right thread, if not sorry!)
I would like to hear your opinions. I posted once before but I will give a short update. I am a Dutch eighteen-year-old girl that is waiting for an aortic valve replacement. I recently got my test results back and my doctor decided that I will need surgery somewhere in March or April, which was disappointing since I hoped I could wait till summer since that would have been easier with school. I live an active live. I have not had my meeting with the surgeons yet, that will be somewhere in the next two weeks. My problem now is that I have to choose between a mechanical or biological valve, but every doctor seems to advice differently. I was first leaning towards a biological valve more, since you could still get pregnant with that, but then I heard that on younger people they tend to last less then 10 years. I am very passionate about school and about having a successful career so I think I would not want to have children before I turn 30. Saying that a biological valve would last 7 years on me, that would mean that I would need 2 open heart surgery’s before I have any children. Since a biological valve also has trouble with pregnancies that would also mean that after my first pregnancy I would immediately need a new valve as well. Basically that means 3 open heart surgeries all because I could possibly want one child in the future. That seems very stressful to me. If I would have been older it would have been different. But then there is the chance, that it will be possible that at the time I will need another replacement, the minimal invasive surgery is a possibility. Which would mean I would have less open heart surgeries, and then the choice is very different. My doctor says she can not promise anything, but she would not be surprised if within 15 years the minimal invasive surgery would apply on me. Now that makes me confused, because I feel like I am making a choice on something that is not certain. On the other hand I am afraid that I will regret it if I take a mechanical valve, because having children with that is possible but very risky. And after reading the risks, I don’t think I would be willing to risk my life to have a child.
Because of the above I feel like choosing for a mechanical valve more. Yes, I will need to live my life on blood thinners, but it would save me all these extra surgeries. There is always adoption etc. Plus some women do have children with a mechanical valve. With choosing a mechanical valve, I will save myself a life full of surgeries. I will choose for my own health, not for possible children.
I have the opinions of several doctors and they all advise something different, and the more information I find about it, the more complicated the choice seems to get. I am at a point where I just have no idea what to do and I am getting frustrated. Not only that I don’t know which valve to choose, also that I feel like at this point in my life my main concern should be whether to go out at night since I have a lecture or class early in the morning, you know. I feel like I am not able to make this decision at this point in my life, and I am stressing out over it. I don’t know whether I want children and I feel like I am too young and lack some life experience and knowledge to make this decision. Now I would like to hear your opinions. I will not base my decision on your opinions, I am just interested to hear what you have to say! Sorry for the long story, and sorry for any English mistakes. English is not my first language. I wish you all a good day / night!
X Berit ( I hope I posted this in the right thread, if not sorry!)