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sylviayasgur

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hi all!
i know many of you have started taking your kids to see cardiologists for fear that congenital valve anomalies may have been "passed down" to your kids.
i decided to do the same thing last summer. i took our 2 girls to see a cardiologist (joey's doc's partner).
their pcp had never heard any murmurs but thought it was a good idea and that we would have nothing to lose.
rachel, our older daughter (19) got a totally clean bill of health and was dismissed.
jamie (15), who is a dancer and is very physically fit, was fine. only one strange finding....
there is a sequence in which you are supposed to hear/feel one's pulse. i'm not sure if it is supposed to be felt first at the wrist, then at the carotid, and then at the groin, but in jamie's case it's reversed.
her echo shows all is perfectly normal. this "reversed order" of the pulse is a symptom of coarctation of the aorta, but she doesn't have any other symptoms (which would include leg fatigue when active among others). he said he wasn't worried and that it could just be a fluke or it could be a very, very mild case of this. either way, nothing would be cdone about it at this stage.
this was last summer and the cardio said let's just see her back in a year.
this year, same findings. she is strong, fit, dancing 6 hard hours a day every day and feeling good.
the cardio suggested we do an MRI at some point before she leaves for college (in 2 years), so that we don't alarm her needlessly.
well, talk about an attentive doctor.... i get a call from him yesterday saying that he was not satisfied "not knowing" and called several colleagues to consult about jamie's case. he said that he would prefer that we have the MRI done this year over the next few months at her leisure, because he would feel more comfortable "knowing".
i cannot blame him one bit and am so glad to see she is in good hands.
he told me that he spoke with one of the heads at columbia who is in charge of pediatric cardio and MRI's (liaison) and that when we're ready, he will give us her name and number and she will be expecting our call.

i mentioned this to jamie, who, naturally, got very upset. she is an extremely sensitive and perceptive kid and i'm sure she is worried (as am i).
anyone out there ever hear of this in such a mild form? anyone able to give me some insight into this?
i am numb.
thanks for listening.
-sylvia
 
I wish I could help with the info you are wanting. I just wanted to let you know you and your daughter will be in my prayer list and in my thoughts until she receives a clean bill of health.

Take care,
 
I've not heard of it either but I know you won't really put it behind you until she has the test done and the results are in. I hope you do it soon and know with what you are dealing. In the meantime you all will be in my prayers too. Let us know what you find out OK? You are always so encouraging to everyone else and now we get the chance to hold you up for a while.

Betty(bvdr)
 
Hi Sylvia-

I'm so sorry this worry has come into your lives. Just take it one small step at a time and try not to project into what "could" be. Only concentrate on what "is" at any given time.

It is always better to know about medical problems than not to know. By knowing, we can deal with them and they can be treated.

Your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

God Bless,
 
All of you are in my thoughts. Keep us updated.
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Les AVR '93 '95
 
Syl

Syl

Probably better to do it soon. I'm sure she will be fine..but those MRI's:eek: Hope it is an open one....they will have to put me asleep if I ever have another one..Closed up feeling:mad: :mad: :mad: Let us know. bonnie
 
Hi Sylvia- Can't help with any information-- just wanted you to know that I understand your worries about your baby, and give you my best wishes. Try to remain objective kiddo, as tough as that may be. Chris
 
Sylvia,

Waiting and not knowing is sometimes SOOO much harder than knowing and being able to take action.

You and your family are in my prayers.

Melissa
 
thank you all for your unending support. i've, naturally, done some research on this and find it hard to believe that thisis what this kid has.
i'm trying to stay positive, mainly for her sake. i'll let her finish out her dance program (ends aug.8th) and then move forward.
so, for now i'm trying to keep it on the back-burner of my mind.
thanks again. you are all so very special to me.
-sylvia
 
A little birdie was here and told me to tell you that all will be well and not to worry. The testing will only be to see if the condition is present, that is all. ;)
 
I had asked my cardilogist, primary and pediatrician, and all indicated that this is not "usually" passed genetically. Siad approx. a 2% chance that my daughter would have a similar valve problem becuase I did (isn't that the same odds as having a bleeding problem with coumadin??)

Her pediatrician is aware of my bicuspid valve, and duaghter's heartbeat is perfect so far (she is twelve, approx same age as they first discovered my mummer)
 
Sylvia - just want you to know that I am thinking of your family while you are going through this worrisome time. It certainly is scary when it's one of the children. They are supposed to be weller than we are, aren't they. And she probably is, but that doesn't keep the worries away. God bless
 
Worried Mom

Worried Mom

Hi Sylvia,

I know you can't help but worry. Anybody would. You might get some more information on the variations of coarctation of the aorta at the adult congenital heart association web page at http://www.achaheart.org//index.php. There's folks on the forum there who can tell you about their experiences, as well as info on the conditions itself. Hang in there!

Joyce
 
Hi Joey and Sylvia,
I ditto Nancy's advice. It is really tough playing the wait and see game, especially when it comes to your children.
On the bright side of things, I noticed you mention your daughter dancing. My daughter is 16, and her dance team competed in a national competition 2 weeks ago in Orlando, FL. Anyway, one of their numbers came out 2nd in the nation. ESPN taped them, so they were pretty excited; and me; well I'm just a proud Dad!
Where all here for you Sylvia. Please keep us posted.
Mark
 
Hi Syl

Take each day as it comes, thank God you have a wonderful physician who is on top of things, Kiss that girl and tell her you love her every day, and try not to worry until you have something actually concrete to be concerned about. We all know the toll worry takes on our lives, and while I know it's in the back of your mind every moment, you don't want to transmit that to your daughter.

I will definitely put you on my prayer list, Syl.

Evelyn
 
Hey Sylvia,
Just want you to know that you and your family are in our prayers and hope everything turns out OK.
Dave

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Surgery: 4/21/03
Aortic Aneurysm Repair
AVR, with a St. Jude Mechanical
Heart Center of the Rockies
 
Hey Sylvia, You hang in there and try not to worry too much. Its not good for you and it wont change anything. Lets just all pray she gets a good report. We are here for you.
Alicia
 
thank you all!

thank you all!

you are all so supportive, regardless of what you yourselves are going through.
i have no words that could sufficiently express my gratitude.
you are truly like family to me.

i am trying not to think about it and only worry when i have to (good luck!!!).
i am specifically motivated by the fact that i don't want to upset jamie.

thank you all for your strength, prayers and support. you mean the world to me.
-sylvia
 
Sylvia

Sylvia

Be glad to have such an attentive cardiologist. These days. most parents don't try to make sure their children are healthy or not. At least, in your heart, you did the right thing and fortunate enough to have the condition detected and being researched. When my own mother was expecting me, the family doctor thought he had heard double heartbeats and did nothing. After I was born, it was three months later when I was diagnosed with congetial heart murmur, an inheirted heart defect. So be glad that everything in being checked into now instead of later. I will pray for your daughter and your family through this hard time. Just keep doing normal things till the tests are done. Take care and everything will be fine.

Caroline
09-13-01
Aortic valve replacement
St. Jude's valve
 
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