Yea, they'll be fine for a few more weeks, and NO, the do NOT think you're a bad mom. If I had a dime for every time my ex said that (for totally different reasons of course) I'd have twenty or thirty bucks. I know it's got to be really tough to not pick them up when they're crying and all, but that's very temporary - your sternum is forever. I know you're being smart and not doing it, but just KEEP remembering that until given the ok, because it's definitely not worth the risk of trying to pick them up. You wanna be strong and pain-free for years to come, and my doc has warned me over and over ('cause he's seen it happen, and knows I'd be one to do something stupid if he doesn't keep reminding me) that if you do to much lifting too early, you can end up with long-term problems. So keep fighting that temptation!!!