Hi Spouse
I'm a spouse, too. My husband, Tyce, had AVR in June 2002.....I write this as I sit watching him outside mowing the paddocks.....I was one of the very worried....actually freaked out, ones who never thought he would survive. We both did, but not without MUCH help and support from this site.
Please know we're here to help with any questions you may have. We've been there.
Evelyn