Something to Think About

[Superbob]

My brother-in-law in Florida passed away early this morning. He was my wife's only brother and they were constant companions growing up. She is taking it hard.

He had spent a month in the hospital where they tried to correct a "leaky" lung. I don't know the exact cause of death but could have been heart-related given the close heart-lung connection. They had tried a laser procedure to repair the lung in hopes of avoiding a major surgery going in through the back. There was still some leakage but the hope was it would mend.

Every situation is different, but this makes me think: Major surgery such as many of us have undergone can be a blessing. "Easier" solutions may delay life-extending action. Now, I don't know if Bill could have even survived the more extensive surgery, so I am not second-guessing on the basis of my limited information. But this is something to think about.

 

[Karlynn]

Your wife and you have my sympathy. May all the wonderful memories she has of her brother sustain her at this very difficult time.

 

[Lynlw]

I am very sorry for you and your wife's loss. I know how I would feel if it were my brother. Please let her know she is in my thoughts Lyn

 

[Ross]

Sorry to hear about it Rob. Yes it does make you stop and think.

 

[Phyllis]

So sorry about your loss and sending my best wishes and sympathy to you both.

 

[Yaps]

Your wife has my sympathy. I am so sorry.

 

[Nan]

My condolences to you, your wife and family. And yes, it sure does make you think a bit about things.

 

[Wise]

So sorry to hear of your loss. Prayers being sent for your wife and family.

 

[Kristy]

So sorry...

So sorry...

Keeping you and your family in my prayers ~ may your wife be comforted by the positive memories she carries with her.

Treasure life!
Kristy

 

[Harrybaby666]

I am so very sorry Rob....

I am so very sorry Rob....

I can certainly relate to your wife's closeness to her brother, as my older brother and I are really close as well, and I hope and pray that you and your wife get through this tragedy with all the speed and grace that god can give. You both are in my thoughts and prayers. Harrybaby

 

[Mary]

Bob,
I'm so sorry to read the news of your brother-in-law's death. Please accept my sincere condolences.

 

[Marguerite53]

Bob. Please accept my sympathy. Losing someone so close can be quite overwhelming. You are fortunate to be strong and healthy for your wife during this rough time.

It is very hard for those of us not in the medical profession to weigh out the benefits of repair over replacement (or more extensive surgery). Each case is so different, each group of doctors with experience so different, each hospital........I'm sorry that it didn't work out for your brother in law. It sounds like you have some questions.

Wishing you peace. Marguerite

 

[catwoman]

Rob:

I am so sorry to hear that your wife has lost her brother. Both of your and your extended family have my deepest sympathy.

 

[Nancy]

My deepest sympathies to your wife and you at the loss of your Brother-in-law. It is a tragedy.

I have often wondered about the very same thing. Joe has had so many thoracic surgeries, three valve surgeries and two lung surgeries. There were times along the way that several doctors wanted to wait and see how things progressed, but Joe always pushed for the surgical correction. Many thought he was wrong, but he forged ahead. He said that there was no use in watching thing deteriorate, if there was fix, then go for it. But he's pretty brave, he doesn't whine about anything they want to do, and he's had some really brutal procedures. He's pretty darned fearless about anything. Most would have opted to wait.

I'm quite sure he would have died long ago if he waited around for some of those things.

But each person is different in what they can handle. These are very scary things to have done to you.

 

[Georgia]

Rob, I'm so sorry for your loss. You and your wife are in my prayers.

 

[Superbob]

Thank you all so much for your thoughts and prayers. We'll be going down tomorrow for the services. My wife is bearing up reasonably well now but I know it will be tough when we get there. We deeply appreciate your kindness.