Ross (no Mister - Afraid of big heads LOL)

[Unregistered]

Sorry for starting a new thread again. Seems that I am not allowed to reply to the other one.

You asked how I am doing now?

I am doing great! I consider that life is good to me (smile). Thank you for asking (smile).

I am not saying that it was a piece of cake at first, but, with time, I am grateful to still BE.

Even after all those years, I still have ?ghost pains? that resembles muscle spasms. I have been told it will always be this way. In simple words, our brain keeps trying to get the lost member moving. It doesn?t know that it?s not available anymore, because it still has all the cells needed to activate it. That?s what?s causing the spasms.

You wont agree with what I?ll tell you now. It?s too early for this, but it?s something to ponder about. No one is really responsible for this mess. That man who caused the accident could have been riding on another road. Why was he in Chris way? That WHY will always be an unanswered question. In my case, it was the wind, only the wind, not even a strong wind. There must be a reason for such a destiny. It seems the answer is not ours to know. If we could answer to ?why does a baby have cancer? maybe we would also find answers to our questions.

As I have no certitude that another life will be given to me after this one, I enjoy every minute of it. To be handicapped following an accident isn?t a disease, it?s only a fact.

There was a time when I could have sunk all my relatives in my desperation. If I were to suggest something, it would be to try not to take your son?s burden as yours. You have your own. This one is HIS. Easier said than done. It's a matter of survival for you, and be able to give support. Step back from his physical challenge, but listen, and watch for emotional disorders. If it happens, that?s something to be taken care by a specialist in the matter.

You have great supporting friends here (smile). This is wonderful! Venting is a MUST, and it fits this forum. As a parent your body is not hurt, but your hearth sure his. The ?significant others? definitely need help too.

 

[Mary]

If I can make a suggestion, if you would register on the Forum, you could post responses to the threads in question.
We'd all love to have you onboard.

 

[gadgetman]

Thanks for posting those kind and reassuring words for Ross.

Unfortunately, you now HAVE to register and become a full fledged member of da family. It's the rules. Because once you "talk" to Ross, you have to "talk" to everybody. Anyway, once you become family you get to use these (LIMIT TEN)

Don't believe me. Just try to stay away. Bet you can't. SEEEEEEE!!!!!

May God Bless,

Danny

PS: Believe me, he AIN'T no MISTER!!!!!!!

 

[Mary]

Hey Gadget,
Did you see the thread title, and think it was addressed to you?

It's about time you showed up around here; I thought I was going to have to put an APB out on you!

 

[PJmomrunner]

Oh Goody! Do we get to cajole "unregistered" into becoming legit? Come on, "unregistered," it's no fun typing quotation marks. Pick a REAL name, why don'tcha???

 

[Ross]

I agree with the others. Why not register? It's not a big deal if you don't have heart problems. Seems to me, you do have a heart and really, that's all that's required around here. Your choice, but I do think it would be beneficial for everyone involved.

Yes I sit back and wonder what lessons are to be learned from all of this. I know it could have happened anyway, anywhere, etc, it's just that this particular driver has 24 previous arrests for doing the basically the same things and now he's killed someone and forever changed the lives of others, only to serve another 5 years in prison and do it all again. That is what troubles me.

I'm glad to hear your doing well. I'm sure I could use the chats as this thing progresses. It's not progressing in the desired manor currently.

 

[Unregistered]

Ross - Though only a shadow, here I am LOL

Ross - Though only a shadow, here I am LOL

Hi, I am Lea (no more cajolery LOL)

I am waiting for the registration email. I did use a real email address to register. I can sign in, but unable to post LOL.

Sorry Ross for not being here at the right time.

Those surgeries where they remove your skin, graft it somewhere else, the skin dyes, remove another piece again, are extremely painful. A conscientious surgeon will try all he can to keep the member alive. To take an early drastic solution is less painful for the patient, but, to my opinion, not the right thing to do. Surgeons also know the psychological impact of an amputation. To keep his foot, if possible, is normally better than a prosthesis. To wear a prosthesis is not the end of the world either (smile).

This is a delicate situation to me. I am not always sure of what I should say. I don?t want to cause more stress. The unknown is scary. To read/talk about it can ?sometimes? ease it. Please NEVER take what I am writing as THE only valuable information you can get. We are all different, the metabolism is different, and our reaction to such events is different too. Keep in mind that I can only share MY own experience (smile).

I know it would be easier for both of us to talk in real time. Unfortunately, I live in a region were DSL/Cable is not an option. I am on a bad dial-up connection. 28.8 KB/S is too slow, and not reliable enough for live chat. Been there, done that (smile)