It IS a tough decision, with many factors to consider, pros and cons of each choice. In this forum on February 1, 2005 -- two weeks before my aortic valve/root replacement at age 63 -- I tried to describe the dilemma this way:
*********************************************************************************
"It would help so much in making this momentous decision if we had a crystal ball, wouldn't it?
"If I get a tissue valve, it will last (or won't) 15 to 20 years. I won't live any longer than that (or I will) and so that will take care of me fine. Or I will be around at 80 and subject to a VR for the tissue but medical technology will be so advanced by then, it won't require invasive surgery (or it will). If I get a tissue valve, won't have to have coumadin more than 3 months, which is the norm (or I'll be the exception and have to have it longer).
"If I get a mechanical valve, regulation of the thinners won't be a problem (or it will be a pain), and the mix will never get out of whack (or it will, and cause clots or bleeding). The ticking sound won't bother me, even though I am a light sleeper (or it will drive me crackers). The mechanical valve will last forever (or I'll have some sort of accident, and it won't after all). I won't ever be far from a clinic and so will be able to keep the coumadin nicely regulated (or I'll be far away from one, in Timbuktu or somewhere, and too klutzy to do the self-regulating).
"I want to go for quality of life. No, I want to go for quantity of life.
"I am not trying to be flippant. You have given me a lot to think about. I am going to call my surgeon's office tomorrow morning and see if I can get one more session with him to discuss more fully the options. He mentioned a stentless bioprosthesis that does the Bentall in one seamless piece, as I understand it. (But I don't understand, really.)
"This is an awfully big decision. Where is Solomon when you need him?
"Thanks for your concern and advice."
**************************************************************
Those were my thoughts nine years ago when I was posting as "BionicBob."
After weighing all the pros and cons, each of us has to make his/her own decision. What's best for one person may not be best for another.
I would just advise that after you have made your decision be at peace with it. It will be a good decision. The only bad decision is to do nothing.