hope this might help....
hope this might help....
Hello Ann. I hope this might be helpful. My father and my best friend's father both had triple bypass surgery in the 90's ('98 and '94).Both men were in their late 70?s. It is entirely possible that these fine gentlemen were headed toward dementia anyway, but the similarity in their behavior makes me suspect that the machine may have contributed. I'm certain it was before precautions were put in place for the pumpheadedness. Both of these men were quite brilliant (at one time Princeton and Stanford professors) and it is quite frustrating to watch them change so.
For us, the first thing that was noticeable was the repeating of things. Not just repeating a story a few days later to someone who you want to share it with, but repeating the story immediately after having told it! Gradually, they were dealing with reduced short term memory --
they have significant trouble forming new memories. Particularly with the mundane things. (an incredibly intense and exaggerated instance of this is depicted in the movie Memento ).
Then there were little things like, well, we all went on a trip together (summer 2001) and he threw his stuff all hodge podge into a suitcase ? not the orderly neat guy I had known. He showed up once for a birthday celebration all sweaty and weird and had a nasty infection on his leg that he hadn?t attended to. All personal judgement issues.
Shortly thereafter, it became clear that they ccould no longer take care of themselves because they couldn't remember to pay their bills. OR if they started to, something could have interrupted them, and they never were able to finish. When I cleaned out my father's house I found evidence of so many things he started to do over and over and over and never got done. He just couldn't "turn a corner" -- couldn't quite get there. Eventually, he wasn't even able to remember how to finish writing a cheque. It would take 20 minutes to get the numbers on because he kept having to start over, what was the amount, who exactly was it to be made out to, etc.. Obviously, I took over at that point (well, and to get his garbage pick-up started up again, and uh, pay his taxes!!). Fortunately for me, I am his only child and we have the most unique closeness. He trusts me implicitly and had me all set up to do just what I had to do for him.
In my opinion, your best bet for getting a reading on yourself is to ask someone who knows you quite well, whether or not you repeat yourself often. And how is your judgement. Are your decisions still in line with the ?same old you everyone knows?. Pay attention, also, if you feel like your life is starting to go in circles -- do you get somewhere and not know why you went there in the first place? Frequently? (I mean we all look in the fridge for our car keys once in awhile!!) (don't we??
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I think stress plays a huge role. My father was very stressed because he was getting so confused. Now that he is in a retirement community he is finally beginning to be able to form new memories again. They are an odd assortment, though. I have 2 caregivers who take him on errands, fill his pillbox (pills, what pills? Do I take pills?), clean, laundry, etc. (he has a wonderful pension, thank goodness!) They have worked for him for over 2 years. He recognizes them as soon as he sees them (we think!) and yet if you ask him who Danielle is in simple conversation, he has no idea. You can walk him back to understanding who she is just fine, but he just cannot call it up in his mind (even if she has just left!). So, while he is not good at labels, he is now remembering what he did yesterday, where he?s been, what he saw, just never really who he was with (but he was never good with names!). We?ve had him on Aracept for over a year now. Frankly, it?s expensive and I?m not sure whether that, or simplifying his life and keeping it constant has been more helpful.
The fact that my name was on all of his important papers (deed to his house) and money related (all accounts) items made it possible for me to re-organize his life. I knew where he wanted to ?go next? (he?d had a friend at this particular retirement community and was familiar with it and liked it -- continuing care -- this is a very practical man). I was able to act on his behalf and in his best interest. Of course he misses his home in the woods. Of course he misses driving (oh my ? what an odyssey that was! Getting his license taken away) But he is safe and those around him are safe.
I did have him tested psychologically before I started to move. I had to. I couldn?t just do it without some degree of measure of his condition. There are people out there who do this kind of work. There is a mini-mental test that can be administered to gauge a person?s level of competence. A gerentologist will have resources, info. He had a complete physical by a doctor trained in gerontology. It was discovered that he had also had numerous little strokes. I suspect that those arose from his need for a bypass (not at all like us valvers, I think) and blockages due to lifestyle and heredity. Anyway, a few phone calls in your area and you can probably get some info. Trust me, you do not sound like you need any of this!!
I?m hoping as you?ve read this that you?ve said repeatedly (I want you to repeat yourself here!) oh! That?s not ME! No, that?s not me either. I can?t believe that you are having serious problems. You sound fabulous. And I think there is huge merit in the mental exercises you are doing. Perhaps we should have a forum on mental exercises!! We can all benefit from the ideas you have put forth.
But if you are concerned that down the road things could change, I urge you to get some things in order so whomever you?ve chosen to look after things can do just that for you. My father made it very easy for me to take care of him. Even so, it was tough on me. If those simple measures weren?t in place it would have been awful. Maybe even impossible.
I have learned so much taking care of my father. I?d be happy to respond in any way further, but if I don?t stop talking NOW, Ross may banish me!!
Marguerite