My Grandmother

[joy]

I haven't posted anything about my gramma being sick, because I didn't know exactly what was wrong with her, and didn't know that she was seriously ill. I found out today that she passed on at 1:45PM. I'm upset, I never got to say good bye, and she never met Erik, my 3 year old son. I wanted to at least show her a picture. Anyways, I will be gone from April 1st until April 8th. The funeral is April 5th. They are making my husband an honorary Pall Bearer. I just thought I would let you guys know.

 

[geebee]

Joy,

So sorry to hear about your grandmum. I will keep you in my prayers.

 

[Ross]

Sorry to hear that Joy. Don't beat yourself up over not being able to say goodbye. I've been doing it for years and it just doesn't matter. Your family has our condolences.

 

[Harrybaby666]

I am so sorry Joy...

I am so sorry Joy...

I haven't posted anything about my gramma being sick, because I didn't know exactly what was wrong with her, and didn't know that she was seriously ill. I found out today that she passed on at 1:45PM. I'm upset, I never got to say good bye, and she never met Erik, my 3 year old son. I wanted to at least show her a picture. Anyways, I will be gone from April 1st until April 8th. The funeral is April 5th. They are making my husband an honorary Pall Bearer. I just thought I would let you guys know.

You will be in my prayers and thoughts as you go through this rough time. I lost my grandfather back in 1981 and still miss him horribly (In fact, I went and visited him today), and I dread the day when I lose my grandmother, as she is 85 and time seems to go faster and faster. Please know that I feel your pain and wish for nothing but peace and love for you. Take Care, Harrybaby666

P.S. As for not being able to say goodbye, you can say goodbye in your heart. I had to keep telling myself this, and it really helped. Harrybaby666

 

[Karlynn]

Joy, please accept my deepest sympathy. May your memories sustain you as you gather to mourn your gramma's death and celebrate her life.

 

[fyrfytr]

Joy,
I am so sorry to hear about your gramma. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Take Care

 

[Abbanabba]

Sorry to hear about your grandma Joy. Sending hugs your way....

Anna

 

[Guest]

Ah, crimeny....very sorry about this news, Joy. Please know you and your family are in our thoughts/prayers....

I'm upset, I never got to say good bye, and she never met Erik, my 3 year old son. I wanted to at least show her a picture.

Don't know how comforting this will be, but, she sees Erik completely now!

I know how you feel about not getting to say goodbye. I remember when my grandmother (Mom's mom) passed away soon after I joined vr.com, I had an opportunity to go see her that Sunday evening as she wanted Mom and my aunt to call all the family to come to the hospital. Of course, that was virtually impossible for about 90% of us. When she died the next morning (we received the word at 4am), I immediately felt guilty that I hadn't gone to see her ... hadn't put "family first".

But, as I've come to realize...everything happens for a reason. My best friend's Dad called me up about a month later and told me how he had been at his Mom's side when she died....and regrets it because his last memory of her is of a lifeless body that was barely hanging on to life. He told me that he was glad I didn't get that chance ... because he knows that my memories of my grandmother are so much better for not seeing her in that "lifeless" state in the hospital.

That has helped me a bit...but, not completely.

Joy, please take care of yourself.

Peace,
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[gijanet]

Oh, Joy, I am so sorry.

Oh, Joy, I am so sorry.

Sending lots of love, hugs, and prayers your way. Janet

 

[Nancy]

Joy-

I am sorry to hear of your loss. My deepest sympathies to you.

 

[Lorraine]

Joy,

I am so sorry about your GrandMother. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[Wise]

I'm so sorry about your loss. Grandmothers are such special people. I agree with Cort that your grandmother sees your son now. From her vantage point, she understand everything you're going through and surely doesn't want you to feel guilt. Our prayers are with you. God bless.

 

[catwoman]

Joy:

My condolences on losing your grandmother. Grandmothers are very special people and losing one creates a big void in a family.

 

[hensylee]

Joy - there will be a hole in your heart, but fill it with lovely memories of her. Show the boys her pictures as they grow up and that way they will get to know her. I often share my memories of my 'Nanny' with others - I even use the term 'Nanny' for my grand and great grandchildren.

Cort - I remember it well. It is good to know that you have gotten on with things. I recall your guilt.

bless you all.

 

[Guest]

Cort - I remember it well. It is good to know that you have gotten on with things. I recall your guilt.

*nods*

That was not a very good time for me. Though I didn't know it at the time, I was to find out 1.5 months later I needed another valve replacement surgery.

And, that, as I recall, was still my "evil twin" doing most of the living in my place.



It is good to have, as you state, "gotten on with things".

*pauses*

Joy...still thinking of you and your family.