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If you allow me, I would like to share my own experience with you. If you don't agree, please delete my post.
Lately my attention is focused on your posts about your son's accident. I sincerely wish that Chris will never experience it but, YES a happy and successful life is possible with a handicap. I can relate to what he is going through. I lost both legs in a motorcycle accident 15 years ago.
What Chris is going through right now is an excruciating pain, a real torture. Don't be surprised that he can be the worse patient you ever seen. We all handle pain in our own ways. His way is not worse that any others I seen in the same situation. His body, and his mind react to the tissues, muscles, veins, and bones fighting for their survival. This is causing an unbearable pain. No pain killers can decrease that pain. It's something like the poison of a venomous snake spreading in your body. Your leg is hurt but the horrible pain goes through your whole body. It also affects your way of thinking because you can't focus on anything else than the pain. I am sorry not to be able to explain it better. There is no words to describe such pain.
I wish with all my hearth that he will never get to the point to need an amputation. If ever it comes to that decision, I can tell you that once my legs where gone, 90% of the pain was gone with them. A surgical amputation heals day after day. Right now he is fighting for the survival of his foot, not healing yet. After the amputation I had to get used to my new condition, new way of living. The worse thing is the way others looked at me. With time it all became "not so important".
The most important thing to me was my relatives being there for me. Even if they were not understanding my reactions or what I was going through, they were visiting when possible, phoning almost every day, and most of all listening to my fears, complains and frustrations. It's the only thing that kept me alive, and the only reason I allowed myself to go on with my life. Knowing that someone will call, and listen, was THE only important moment of my days.
Nothing else is needed, only be there for him.
As many others, I will keep you, Chris, and your family in my prayers.
"God always say "YES" to our prayers. It may not always be the YES we want, but it will always be the YES He knows BEST for us"
Lately my attention is focused on your posts about your son's accident. I sincerely wish that Chris will never experience it but, YES a happy and successful life is possible with a handicap. I can relate to what he is going through. I lost both legs in a motorcycle accident 15 years ago.
What Chris is going through right now is an excruciating pain, a real torture. Don't be surprised that he can be the worse patient you ever seen. We all handle pain in our own ways. His way is not worse that any others I seen in the same situation. His body, and his mind react to the tissues, muscles, veins, and bones fighting for their survival. This is causing an unbearable pain. No pain killers can decrease that pain. It's something like the poison of a venomous snake spreading in your body. Your leg is hurt but the horrible pain goes through your whole body. It also affects your way of thinking because you can't focus on anything else than the pain. I am sorry not to be able to explain it better. There is no words to describe such pain.
I wish with all my hearth that he will never get to the point to need an amputation. If ever it comes to that decision, I can tell you that once my legs where gone, 90% of the pain was gone with them. A surgical amputation heals day after day. Right now he is fighting for the survival of his foot, not healing yet. After the amputation I had to get used to my new condition, new way of living. The worse thing is the way others looked at me. With time it all became "not so important".
The most important thing to me was my relatives being there for me. Even if they were not understanding my reactions or what I was going through, they were visiting when possible, phoning almost every day, and most of all listening to my fears, complains and frustrations. It's the only thing that kept me alive, and the only reason I allowed myself to go on with my life. Knowing that someone will call, and listen, was THE only important moment of my days.
Nothing else is needed, only be there for him.
As many others, I will keep you, Chris, and your family in my prayers.
"God always say "YES" to our prayers. It may not always be the YES we want, but it will always be the YES He knows BEST for us"
