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We met my surgeon tonight - he walked in in scrubs and I asked if he had come prepared for me and he answered "When was the last time you ate?":p Sense of humor goes a long way.

The questions I gathered here were answered mostly without me asking, another good sign. He's been at this 20 years, does more AV than anybody locally, VERY comfortable with the procedure and with explaining it with sketches and the wall charts. My wife says she wanted surgery from him and there isn't anything wrong with her!

We discussed at length mechanical/bio. I was definitely leaning mech, but I feel far more comfortable with a tissue valve. He says it is my choice, but he would use a tissue over mech for several reasons 1)coumadin (he's actually had patients who are allergic to it, and the lifestyle issues) 2) he can make a tissue fit better 3) he has seen MANY mech replacements (how depressing that would be!) All in all, it was obvious to us both that he was very comfortable with the tissue valve. He typically uses the bovine valve, but said there is a good chance with my calcified bicuspid he could have to replace the aorta possibly up to the branches, in which case he would rather use a homograft. He did one today on a 48yo male.

So when to do it? He agreed sooner than later, so we suggested Dec. 15 (wife is off school 3 weeks). Turns out he is having both knees replaced in 2 weeks!!! SO - I can go next Mon/Tue (!!!) or wait until late January. He says the worst part is the pre-op fears. Do I want to wait 2-3 months (which, btw, he feels is about as long as I should consider) or just be done and recovered by the end of the year?

Pretty bizarre - 2 weeks ago I thought 5-10 years, then less than 2, than 3 months, then December - now next week! I need to decide by tomorrow to get scheduled.

I certainly felt prepared to meet him, but I will say even if I wasn't, he was. I can't imagine anybody else doing this for me. He even addressed the minimally invasive surgery (it isn't done locally) and said that for AV it isn't the best choice (more time on bypass, more complications, and the pain from the rib slice is sometimes permanent!)

Thanks for all your input - this thing is careening towards a conclusion. Let me hear your thoughts and questions!
 
Kenny,

Wow! Things sure are moving fast. At least you have a few days to prepare (if you decide to go with next week). Some folks get wheeled right in. Hope you get some sleep tonight.

Confidence in your surgeon is a relief in the storm of variables, isn't it?

Best wishes to you. Please let us know what you decide.
 
Best wishes to you as you consider your decisions. Just think what a great holiday season you could have it this were over. I had mine right before Christmas 2000 and went home Christmas Eve. I now think of that Christmas as the best I ever had. I will be thinking of you as you progress.
 
Kenny, it sounds like you had a very productive meeting.
It's important that you feel comfortable and it sounds like you feel a little more at ease now. That's great.

Let us know if you decide to go earlier or wait. Sometimes getting it over with can save you a couple of months of worry. On the other hand, it doesn't give you much time to prepare.

Make sure your wife or someone else can stay with you for the first week or three at home. The first week is pretty important; if not for medical reasons, then for emotional support. Maybe you're not a whiner like me though. I was a big baby and my wife was so wonderful throughout my recovery.

If you have the procedure before the holiday season, keep in mind that it will take a while before you are able to lift things. You will have good high energy days and days where you wonder why the heck you can't get off the couch.

The holiday season can be stressful anyway, but you won't be able to do a lot of chores or help out much.

Just some food for thought.

The main thing is that you seem very at ease with your surgeon and that is really important. So many of us get stuck with some guy who treats us a bit like a side of beef.

Take care Kenny and let us know what you decide ok?
Kev
 
Kenny,
I basically had the same thing happen. I met with the surgeon and one of his last questions after explaining all the details was "When do you want this done." My husband, jokingly, said "How 'bout next week?" The surgeon pulled out his daytimer, looks at it and says "Thursday good for you?"

Now the difference is that I had been feeling pretty rotten for a long time and had been wishing and waiting to be told I was ready for a replacement. So he didn't have to ask me twice - Thursday was fine for me! Had I just found out that valve replacement was a definate for my future, I don't know how I would have thought about having it done so quickly.

Go with what you feel most comfortable with and what makes you feel most at ease. (to the extent that you can feel "at ease" when facing this surgery)

You seem to be thinking through this very carefully. Good luck!

Karlynn
 
Hi Kenny
I'm sort of in the same boat, ( though mine won't be next week, for sure!!!)
If I were you, I would definitely go for the next week slot. The waiting is horrible and I feel like my whole life is on hold! I wish I could get it out of the way next week!!
Good luck to you and God bles!!
-elena

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Whatever you decide is great, but I'll chime in with the group recommending next week - you'll avoid the whole mental freak-out time. :)

Plus, your surgeon will have his original knees for your surgery, and you rule out the possibility of complications from his knee surgery interfering with your surgery.

All the best!
 
Kenny,
I, like you, had only two weeks to prepare mentally for the AVR. One thing going for you is that you feel relatively good now...Imagine waiting till you're in trouble. The waiting is the hard part...We are all here to help you through this period....Good luck my friend....Let us know of your decision...:)
 
I'd be interested in knowing how many mechanicals HE'S replaced and why they needed replacement.

Kenny like I said before, see what he says and go for it. It's a shock, but it's far better this be done before things start to really get bad. I'm living proof of what can happen if you wait too long and I wouldn't wish it on anyone.
 
And you wanted to put it on the back burner - guess not, huh? Good luck in whatever decision you make. Waiting is hard whichever date you pick. Think I'd go before HIS surgery - keep us posted.
 
Hey, Kenny,

As the professional procrastinator (waiting until who knows when. . . ) I'd have to agree with the others -- if you trust the doc, and he says "Now," then it should be now. Just roll with it -- at least you won't have all the annoying waiting some of us have had.

Go get 'em, tiger. Gotta get your daughter off to school soon! (Mine starts college next fall, still choosing which one. . . )
 
I vote for next week

I vote for next week

Oh, that's right - I don't have a vote.:D

Seriously - consider that you can have a huge deterioration in the next couple/three months. Especially because a good chest cold or flu could send you into chf (this was my experience last winter - got a cold a Christmas, was in chf mid-January). You want to be in the BEST shape you can be when you have this.

But of course it's ultimately your decision. You are just hearing from a lot of us who wish we'd had surgery sooner.

Best of luck in your decision.
 
Hey Kenny-

It sounds like to me that you have been BLESSED with the opportunity to get this taken care of NOW!! :) I would go for the surgery next week and spend my time over the holidays resting, enjoying my family and relaxing in the thought that my heart had been fixed up....what a great X-Mas present that would be???:) :)

GO FOR IT!!
 
Group Hug!

Group Hug!

Your support is amazing and greatly appreciated! I had a brief tough time last night, but resolved that options are non-existent and it is time to move on.

I agree (so's my wife) with Melissa & Hensylee - get him while he still has his knees! Anything could happen... to him or to me... in the interim.

At sales meeting this A.M. the other Realtors rallied around to handle my business and then my broker had us hold hands and we had prayer. Not your average real estate office!

I will keep you guys informed and hope to soon have lots to add in the way of encouragement and support to others. Right now I'm a little self-focussed! But, I could be over the top this time next week.
 
Kenny

Kenny

I'm curious to the age of this surgeon who has to have both knees replaced...but I vote for next week before the flu season gets here. The least little infection you have..they would postpone it. Wife could get a Sub for a week or so...Bonnie
 
Hi Kenny-

Talk about surprises! I'm also going to vote for asap. A family friend had a knee replacement, it was quite a while before she worked out the post surgery stiffness and pain, and I don't think she would have been too happy about standing for several hours to operate on someone. Don't tell your surgeon this. Just get it done. Strike while the iron's hot. Nice to have it done before the holidays.
 
You guys are as bad as my wife - she just called to see if I scheduled it for Monday or Tuesday. She may as well go ahead and draw the dotted line down my chest!

Granbonny - judging by his cv, he's 51. You are right about a sub - she can take off day 1&2 for surgery, then the following week is Thanksgiving, so she would only need two days off to be home with me an entire week.

I think we all agree - get this guy while he can stand happily, and if my AV has gone this far in a year, what is likely in the next 3 months? 6 months?
 
Hello Kenny

I'm Evelyn, whose husband, Tyce, had AVR in June 2002. Like your wife, I believe it's better to get it done and over with asap.

As you may have read on an old thread, we have a friend who is a pathologist in Jersey who told us that when they go bad, they usually go bad quickly, so it's better to have it done when you're healthy and basically symptom free. We both agreed with him and have never looked back. I wish you the very best making your decision!!! It truly is a difficult one.

Evelyn
 
Kenny

Kenny

Another reason to have it next week. We have some weeks before the cold weather in the South. I, live below you in North Georgia Mountains...You will be able to get outside and walk after you come home. Remember, you have to walk, walk, that nasty stuff out of your system..:p :p :p Get the recliner. near the bathroom....Where do you live in Tennessee? You will be fine.:) :) Bonnie
 
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